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Diet Update

March 10th, 2010

This is our last update from Florida for a few weeks. We’re getting on the road early tomorrow. We’ll be in St Louis for the weekend… and then it’s South Dakota for the rest of the month. Do have some fun posts scheduled already, so things are covered while we’re on the road. Then once we’re settled, we’ll have good internet access and be in touch again.

We went to Walmart earlier today and bought some healthy things for the trip. In total, we’ll spend about 50 hours in the car… and we don’t want fast food to be the only quick and cheap option for food. So, we stocked up nicely for breakfast, lunch and snacks. We’ll have dinner at a sit-down restaurant before stopping for the night. That should limit the damage.

Then, once we’re settled we will go grocery shopping and we will have access to that in-door pool. Plan to swim everyday. Looking forward to that.

So, we have a plan for our time away. Just need to stick with it now!

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Friends Update

 

 
 

 

Carye: Carye got some tough news from her doctor a couple of weeks ago. While there is nothing too serious going on, she has strongly been advised to avoid getting too strenuous with exercise. That bummed her out because she not only enjoys her intense workouts, but they are a big-big part of her diet plan.

She’s getting back on track though. Hubby Papa Shrek has started to help with motivation… and we know what that means. Once Carye got started, she felt better about things and actually lost half a pound. She’s feeling better about things… we we’re glad she is doing well. :)

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Jean: Jean’s first full week with a clean slate went pretty well. A couple of minor issues here and there… but a lot better with cussing. So overall, a solid week. The only real issue was with testing. Will need to have “a talk” about that. How much of a talk will depend on how she does between now and then.

That certainly is a challenge with discipline when distance is involved… trying to stay motivated to avoid a spanking when a spanking has already been earned. It can be easy to fall into a “what is the point now” mindset. Don’t want to make it where an earned spanking can be avoided though… because that has a negative impact too. We’ve found that the best approach is to work with the severity of the spanking. Big difference between say a 2 minute hand spanking… and a long session with the Hawaiian Paddle.

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Courtney: Courtney had a solid week with both diet and exercise decisions. While the scale is being a bit stubborn, Courtney tells us she really is feeling the difference. Not only is she feeling better, but she has lots more energy. So much of weight loss seems to be focused on looking better… but the difference in how it makes you feel is really where it’s at.

Not that looking better doesn’t have its place! Courtney tells us she’ll be coming to Florida later this year and she wants to look her best in a swimsuit. That’s a good motivator too, especially with a set date.

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Iggy (from Perceptions From the Edge): Iggy did not have a fun week. Some weeks just start out bad and just keep on going.  Struggling through the week doesn’t keep one in the best frame of mind for dieting either so it’s like you get double whammied.  It’s just not fair!

While the scale wasn’t kind and the week was miserable overall… Iggy is hanging in there.   The biggest part of dieting is dealing with the down weeks and not falling totally off the wagon.   We know things will improve and we hope Iggy is knowing that too!

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Good luck to everyone in the coming week.

If you’re interested in the Spanking Diet, we’d like to invite you to check out the Yahoo Spanking Diet Group. It’s a great group. Over 200 members now… lively discussions with lots of encouragement and idea sharing. We’d love to have you!

All you need is a free Yahoo account that lists your ~adult age~ in your *public profile*.

Always feel fee to Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com too… we always enjoy talking with new like-minded friends.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Bryanna Cox’s Spanking Blog
The lovely Bryanna Cox has a brand spanking new blog that has already become a regular read for us. We really do enjoy this blog and we’re happy to share it here.

Bryanna is a well known spanking model that can be found on several different sites (including Spanking Bare Butts). Her blog has lots of pictures of her modeling work, which is nice… she’s a beautiful young lady. She shares fun stories and insights from her modeling work too, which we also enjoy. She even makes things interactive with her readers. She recently asked for suggestions for a scenario for her next video shoot.

Can sometimes see Bryanna give a spanking too. She recently did a post about a spanking she gave her friend Annie. From the pictures, it was easy to tell it was a hard spanking. So, Bryanna knows her way around both sides of a paddle.

Bryanna’s blog is about more than just her modeling though. She’s a lifelong spanko and shares that side of herself too. It’s interesting reading how spanking works with her husband Lance (he has a blog too, The Spanking Billboard). They are a good match and we love reading about all the fun they have.

Some recent fun had Lance spraying cooking oil on Bryanna’s bare bottom and then laying down a spanking. It wasn’t supposed to be a hard one, but apparently the cooking oil didn’t know that. Bryanna says her butt felt like it was on fire! They also did an outdoor bare-bottom spanking with a freshly cut switch… which was really cool. Have done some of those right here on our property and really enjoyed them.

We really do enjoy this blog and highly recommend it. It offers a great mix of spanko fun. Do hope you’ll check it out… and that you’ll take a moment and say hi to Bryanna when you do. She’s a sweet girl.

 

A.S.S. Spanking Party Group
If you’re an occasional reader here, you probably know that we enjoy attending spanking parties. We started off by attending some of the larger parties such as Texas All-State and Florida Moonshine. Can’t say enough about how much fun we have at the bigger parties. It’s a chance for us to not only see some of our close friends… but a chance to meet new friends… as well as spend some time with the who’s who in the spanking community.

We’ll be attending the Boardwalk Badness party in Atlantic City the end of next month… which will be a big-big event. ASS GroupReally looking forward to that. Definitely do enjoy the larger parties.

We also have gone to some smaller parties. Started by attending a Southern Spanking Conference party hosted by our friends R and S (from Rambling Thoughts). Again, had a great time. Different feel to the smaller events. There is still lots of spanking fun… and we mean lots… :)

The really neat thing about a smaller event is the chance to not only spend time with friends… but to spend quality time. Can actually sit down and talk and catch up. There are group conversations that everyone can participate in. At the bigger events, a lot of times it’s people coming and going… rooms filled with people… lots of separate conversations… can be a bit chaotic feeling. The smaller events are a bit more mellow.

Also… the smaller events (that we attend) are more focused on the types of spanking we enjoy. It’s almost all male spanking female (with a touch of F/F spanking thrown in). There are lots of spanking games. It’s done in a totally safe environment too. We know and trust everyone at the party. The bigger events are really good about getting rid of the creeps… they do it FAST. But, at the smaller events… they never even make it in the door.

As much as we enjoy the larger events… we do enjoy the smaller ones more. They’re more comfortable. So, late last year we started a party group here in Central Florida. Have already had two parties… can read about those in the pull-down menus near the bottom of the left-hand side under ‘Our Spanking Party Posts.’

Those went really-really well and we’re planning another event for the end of May over Memorial Day weekend. The party will be in a hotel in Ocala and the price is approximately $50 a day… which covers a hotel room, the party suite, food and the actual party. That’s another big advantage… $50 doesn’t come close to covering *the cost of the hotel room* at larger events. Here, it covers almost everything.

The group is only open to people we know and trust. Certainly open to getting know new friends though. So if you’re interested in the group, get in touch with us.

Roundtable Wrap-Up

March 7th, 2010

Do you… or your spankee… ‘brat’ for a spanking at home? If so, how often and how does it work? What kind of spanking does it usually lead to? And if not… how come? Would you like it to? And then what are your thoughts about “bratting = consent” at a spanking party?

 

 

 

Bratting and spanking parties is a somewhat common topic on spanking blogs and forums. Not everyone goes to parties though, and of course we all spend more time at home no matter what. So, we thought it would be interesting to talk about bratting at home. A big thank you to all that took the time to share.

Let’s start the wrap-up by taking a look at the results of the Quick Response Poll.

Do you… or your spankee… ‘brat’ for a spanking at home?
Yes, all the time. ~19%
Yes, on occasion. ~ 38%
Yes, rarely. ~ 15%
No, not anymore. ~ 3%
No, but would like to. ~ 5%
No, and no interest. ~ 8%
Not in ‘at home’ relationship. ~ 12%

Nearly 3 out of 4 use bratting as part of their at-home spanking play. Only 8% have no interest in it, so overall it’s very popular. Didn’t expect the numbers to be quite that high. But hey, that’s why we have the poll!

Here are the comments for this week. Seems like we’re getting a lot fewer comments than we have in the past… not sure what the deal there is. We really do enjoy hearing from out readers… your insights are always interesting. Did get 3 comments though, and do appreciate them. Hope you enjoy them.

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Scunge says: I said on occasion though I think My Sir would disagree. He OFTEN says I am being UPPITY which for him means bratty. He HATES it when I brat,I often don’t realize I am doing it,often an innocent comment will be deemed as uppity can’t win for losing sometimes.

~Yea… lol… how much bratting goes on probably does depend on who is giving the answer!~

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sarah says: “Please do feel limited by the questions we asked. If you have something else to share about bratting… please do feel welcome.”

So should we feel limited or not? LOL…had too, fit the topic so nicely, *WEG*

I really find that my answer changes as I do…When Nick and I first met I was very much the uber brat I play online. At first it kept the chemistry going, but it really did start to get old after a while! I had to learn to communicate in other ways, read my hubby better because it was definitely “happening when someone isn’t in the mood” and really explore and be open to learning myself and what I really wanted!

I still definitely occasionally brat at home, it leads to firm, right to the bare flurry squirmy spankings, or if we are both in the mood to really play but want to keep it emotionally light we’ll start with some fun back and forth.

For the most part emotionally Nick has earned my respect as a play partner and I am learning his limits of patience and as he has gotten much more formidable in his retribution to being pushed beyond those limits…LOL… in general I don’t brat him quite so much anymore!!

As for parties…hehehe…it really depends on the play partner. Whether its someone I already know or someone I’m just meeting it really depends on the chemistry/vibe if I’m going to brat or not and to what degree. I believe at a party we all know why we are there and if I take bratting further than a few comments, or keep pushing when I’ve been warned by another attendee, I’ll take my comeuppance and consider it as having given my consent. If I don’t really want to play with someone for whatever reason, I’ll really limit my responses when being provoked or shift my attention to another person as subtle hints. That being said, I don’t go around being nasty to everyone and I certainly don’t expect the first witty retort in a conversation to lead me over a stranger’s lap!

I am fine with being spanked in a room full of people so even if I don’t feel comfortable with a more private play with a top I’ve bratted to that degree at a party, I’ll take my spanking right there in a more lighthearted environment with plenty of people I know all around.

I really think you have to be willing to read people’s signs, always play safe, and be cognizant of the fact that people come to a party to see friends and play, and if you don’t want to play with someone, don’t lead them to believe you do and you’ll spare a lot of hurt/awkward feelings!

~Definitely understand what you mean about brat play time changing. Really do have to understand the signs too, like you say. Bratting is a game, and for it to work both spanker and spankee need to be playing it (and using the same rules). ~

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Cowgirl says: I was nicknamed, Brat, long before I even knew about the spanking community. To this day, that nickname remains! What can I say, I was a natural fit with spanking! Now, while I may be a brat I do my best not to be over the top. I am still respectful, but I have a sarcastic/witty sense of humor; that’s just a part of who I am. The tops I am friends with see it as a fun challenge. Since my top friends are online and far way, most of my bratting doesn’t result in a spanking. Instead, I often hear, “You are so lucky I’m not there” or “You need a hard spanking.” At home, however, my boyfriend dishes out a playful spanking.

~You are speaking the truth… lol… you do have a sense of humor that can be playfully bratty. One of these days though, you’ll end up paying the price all brats pay.~

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Suzy Says: I don’t think I typically ‘brat’ for a spanking at home. I would say it’s more like I ‘encourage’ one ;) There are things that happen regularly that with a little more emphasis can bring Todd quickly to a ‘Suzy needs a spanking’ mode. It’s not typically necessary to do even that though since I can just suggest or even ask for a spanking and get one most of the time.

The behavior mentioned above would get me a moderately hard spanking, kinda like one would get for a maintenance type spanking. Usually with his hand (which as many know can be very hard when he wants it to be) but sometimes he’ll also throw in an implement or two.

I like the way things are as far as anything more, such as a discipline spanking, isn’t bratted for or received by bratting alone and that works for me because I don’t ‘want’ a discipline spanking if I haven’t deserved or earned one for a legitimate misdeed.

Now at a party, I definitely think bratting = consent as long as it is by someone who I know and who knows me well enough to know how hard to make the bratty deserved spanking. I am pretty easy going at parties so if I brat, I expect to be ‘called’ on it and to get whatever the spanker wants to give me for it.

If it’s someone who doesn’t know me and hasn’t spanked me before, then I don’t mind verbally being called on my brattiness with a scolding of sorts and maybe a playful spank for it but not sure anything much harder would get the reaction they might be expecting LOL, but typically I wouldn’t be bratting someone I didn’t know anyways.. typically ;)

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Todd Says: Bratting here at the house isn’t too common… but it does happen. A big issue is that we do have a teenage son. If he gets any hint of a bratting game it’s a problem. Not that he thinks *spanking* or anything like that, but he would use it as an excuse to tease and a bratty teenager is not a fun game!

We do have fun playing bratting games when we’re in a spanko friendly environment like a party or time with like-minded friends though. The spankings for bratty are pretty much always playful too. If a spanking has a hint of discipline to it, it doesn’t work for Suzy. She can play lots harder in a bratting situation with other spankers (I think because there is no discipline relationship in play). So our bratting spankings are lighter and playful.

As for bratting play with other spankees, I do enjoy it. It creates a reason for a spanking which allows for playful scolding and such… which does work. The girl doing the bratting needs to understand the rules though. Could do an entire post about that… but basically… once the spanking has been given, *the bratting should stop*.

As for “bratting = consent”… sure… that’s true… so long as I know the spankee and we’re on CFthe same page. If I don’t know her… than “bratting = irritating me.”

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All the pictures in this week’s Roundtable Wrap-Up post come from the Clare Fonda Pass. The pass offers 5 sites… including Spanked Sweeties, Girl Spanks Girl, Spanked Callgirls and My Spanking Roommate… for one low price.

 

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Here is a fun story from a couple of years ago.

Enjoy!

 
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From the Daily Mail (a popular British newspaper)

Coma woman woken by husband’s ‘rollicking’ as doctors were about to switch off life-support machine

23rd February 2008

A mother who fell into a coma during labour came back from the brink of death after her husband gave her “a bloody good rollicking”.

Yvonne Sullivan, 28, suffered blood poisoning and blacked out after being told her newborn son had died during a traumatic birth.

She was taken to intensive care where Dominic, her 37-year-old husband, kept vigil for two weeks.

When doctors told him they might have to switch off her lifesupport machine, he sprang into action.

Holding his wife’s hand, he told her: “You start fighting, don’t you dare give up on me now. I’ve had enough, stop mucking around and start breathing. Come back to me.”

Two hours later she started breathing on her own.

Within five days Mrs Sullivan’s ventilator was switched off and she regained consciousness.

Yesterday she said she remembered her husband berating her.

“I can’t remember exactly what he said but I never liked getting told off by Dom,” she recalled.

“Something inside me just clicked and I began to fight again.

“I had been on 100 per cent life support and I was deteriorating, but within two hours of him ordering me to get better I’d regained 5 per cent of my breathing.

“When I first came round I’d thought he’d been gone a few minutes, then he told me I’d been out for two weeks. It’s a miracle really. I owe him so much.”

Mrs Sullivan, from Westonsuper-Mare, Somerset, became pregnant shortly after marrying in September 2006.

But her unborn child was anaemic and needed regular blood transfusions in the womb.

Last July, Mrs Sullivan gave birth to Clinton at St Michael’s Hospital in Bristol.

Two months premature, he died from a blood infection and her body soon went into septic shock, a condition in which the vital organs shut down.

Mrs Sullivan, who has a son Ryan, eight, from a previous marriage, was rushed to Bristol Royal Infirmary, where her condition worsened.

Her husband, a lorry driver, stayed by her bed washing and combing her hair and talking about family and friends.

Mr Sullivan said he joked about their Cyprus honeymoon, where she fell ill after catching pneumonia and ended up in a high dependency unit.

“When the doctors told me to think about turning off the life support I got angry,” he added. “I grabbed her hand and began shouting at her. I gave her a bloody good rollicking.

“I’d already had to explain to Ryan that his brother Clinton had died, and that his mummy might not survive.

“He said he’d be cross with the doctors if they let mummy go to heaven. I kept telling her to pull through. Then I left the room to get some air.

“I came back two hours later and she had started to breathe. It was incredible. Sometimes you find powers you just didn’t know you had.

“I hope this gives hope to other people in similar situations.”

Mrs Sullivan, who works as a sandwich maker and dance instructor, spent another week in hospital after her coma ended.

Although at first she struggled with basic tasks she has made a full recovery.

“I am fine now, doctors say it must be a miracle,” she said

 

 

*Bratting*

 

 

 

 

The topic of bratting at spanking parties has been a hot one lately. We’ve seen it discussed on different blogs and message boards. The question at hand boils down to… at a spanking party does bratting equal giving consent.

It’s more complex than it sounds though. Certainly at a party bratting often is a way of ‘asking’ for a spanking without coming and saying the words. It also gives a reason for the spanking, which allows for things like playful scolding. Thing is… what is bratting? There is a lot of room for interpretation.

Our thought is… at spanking parties, spankees shouldn’t brat spankers they don’t really know… and spankers shouldn’t spank brats they don’t know very well. Need to get to know someone so you can be on the same page. Make sure you’re both on the same page about bratting… and that spanking desires and limits are understood.

Would like to know what you think too. That’s a pretty specific question though, and we realize that not everyone is interested in attending spanking parties. So, we’re going to expand the topic a bit.

Like we mentioned, it’s our opinion that at a party a spanker and spankee should know each other before basically playing a game (bratting) that leads to a spanking. That way they both know the rules. Back at home though, away from the party scene… that knowing each other thing isn’t an issue. Like they say… we’ve met!

The benefits of bratting… asking for a spanking without actually having to say the words, and creating a playful reasoning for that spanking… still can apply at home. Also much easier to figure out when bratting is happening (since you know each other). There are possible downsides though… including bratting happening when someone isn’t in the mood. Bratting of course isn’t for everyone either.

So an expanded topic about bratting this week. As always, we warmly welcome everyone to share. We really do value your thoughts and insights. Would love to hear from you… so please don’t be shy.

Here are a few questions to get the discussion going.

 

Do you… or your spankee… ‘brat’ for a spanking at home? If so, how often and how does it work? What kind of spanking does it usually lead to? And if not… how come? Would you like it to? And then what are your thoughts about “bratting = consent” at a spanking party?

 

We invite you to leave a comment below, or if you like you can Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com and we’ll post your thoughts in the Sunday Roundtable Wrap-up. Please don’t feel limited by the questions we asked. If you have something else to share about bratting… please do feel welcome.

Also have the Quick Response Poll and we do invite you to share your vote there too.

Thanks for reading and have a great weekend!

 

Do you… or your spankee… ‘brat’ for a spanking at home?

Yes, all the time.
Yes, on occasion.
Yes, rarely.
No, not anymore.
No, but would like to.
No, and no interest.
Not in ‘at home’ relationship.

 

 

This past Valentine’s weekend we threw a small spanking party in Ocala, Florida. Just a few close friends, but we certainly stayed busy and had a lot of fun. We’re sharing some of the highlights of the party. Today we’re covering the second half of the party.

Enjoy!

 

Kat’s “Bush” spanking
As you might recall, Kat (from Katisms: an überbrat) gave Todd a gift at the start of the party. The “Palm Healer” contained Band-Aids, wraps, medications and a cold-press… the exact things one would need for an injured or sore hand. It all came in a very cute container that Kat had decorated herself. Very sweet of her, but yea… more than just a little bratty too.

When your scene name is “Kat the Brat” though, it’s hardly a surprise when the brat part comes out to play. Todd was not caught off guard.

Kat has a healthy interest in politics and follows things pretty closely. Though it’s probably fair to say she leans to the left, she’s not an extremist by any means. She’s open to views from both sides. That said, Kat was not a fan of George Bush… not even close.

Todd decided to use that fact to direct a little teasing back Kat’s way. He made a small Bush/Cheney sticker and then midway through a spanking… he slapped it on Kat’s panties. Everyone could see it happening, except Kat of course. Lots of hints were thrown her way.

Those are patriotic panties… those panties are leaning to the right… red, white and blue panties… and so on. Kat knew something was up, but couldn’t figure out what.

Ok, so not the greatest act of payback in history… lol. But hey, he’s not known as “Todd the Brat” either, so the deck wasn’t exactly even. Kat did get a spanking out of the deal too, and we know that had to hurt. (hurt HER that is… lol).

Kat figured out the sticker joke a little after the spanking and commented… perfect place for Bush, my ass!

 

Spankopoly
Besides the silly game with stickers we also played some actual spanking games at the party, including a couple of games of Spankopoly.

The first game was interesting. It started off as a typical game of Spankopoly with lots of spanking. Probably more spanking than usual… in part because “someone” stacked the deck to have all the spanking cards at the top (hmmm, maybe Todd isn’t so bad at payback, lol).

The game zipped along real nicely with each spanker getting to spank each of the spankees, several times. Then a funny thing happened. In the middle of a friendly game of Spankopoly… an actual real estate trading game broke out, lol. All of a sudden deals were being made, people were building paddles and paddles with holes on the properties. It got very competitive.

And once the top of the stacked deck was played out, spankings became less frequent… and the focus REALLY got on the game. lol, everyone wanted to win and spanking took a back seat. How sad!

Kat finally broke the trance by more or less yelling… I WANT A SPANKING!

lol, we wrapped the game up and moved on to other things.

Did learn a lesson too. When we played Spankopoly again later in the party, we added a few rules. First of all, the game had a time limit… 1 hour. We also made it where the owner of the “implements” (which replace the traditional railroads) got a spanking option. For example, if a top owned the ‘Hairbrush Implement’ and a bottom landed on it, he could collect his rent in either cash or spanks.

The house rules worked real nicely and kept the focus on the spanking. Don’t always need to do that, but this was a competitive group.

 

Trivia Game
We played other spanking games too, including a trivia game that Suzy made up. We all took turns answering questions about spanking. If a top got his question right, he got to give a spanking with the spankee and implement being decided by luck of the draw. For the spankees… they got the spanking if they missed.

The flaw in the game was… some spankees started throwing questions so they could get the spanking that came with the intentional miss, lol. Hey, this is a group that really likes spanking!

When it was Suzy’s turn for a question, Publikk (from iSpank) would make one up. He did an excellent job coming up with questions. Some really tough questions. Suzy didn’t mind though… saved her the problem of having to intentionally miss!

We also watched some of the Winter Olympics while playing games, which was fun. We tried to come up with some spanking games based on the Olympics too. No one really understood the rules of the sports they were showing though, lol. So we just watched and played spanking games everyone could understand.

As you can see, we were playing with lots of different implements too.

We had a great party and everyone had fun.

We’re planning something for late May too… and we’ll be sharing a post about that real soon.

You can see part 1 of the Valentine’s Spanking party HERE.

 

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