As some already know we have decided to separate as a couple. Suzy has remained in Arizona and has started a new relationship… while Todd has moved back to Florida and is staying with his sister. So ToddnSuzy are no more. And while we are not planning to divorce any time soon it is highly unlikely that we’ll ever get back together.

We are still friends and we still support each other, so this hasn’t been an ugly breakup. We share a son together as well as many years filled with happy memories. Those bonds will remain.

The reasons for the breakup are simple in some ways and complex in others. They have nothing to do with kink or spanking though. Those were both always positives in our lives and we both move on as spankos.

What will become of this blog we don’t yet know. We have mutually decided it probably best to give it some time before deciding. The main two options being kicked around though are deleting it entirely or simply leaving it as an archive. We’ll figure that out in the coming weeks.

We do wish to thank everyone that supported this blog through the years. You helped add joy to our lives and we thank you. Good luck to all.

If you’d like to reach Todd he is at ToddnFlorida@yahoo.com

And Suzy is at SpankableSuzy@yahoo.com

We still have the ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com Email address too.

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Here is something with a beat you can dance to…

Here is a fun post from last year which we’re sharing again.  Enjoy… especially you belt lovers!

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Always be belt aware!

Tergus Suppliciumer (belt) and its careless victim

Places to Watch for Belts:
~ Dresser drawers.
~ Pant loops.
~ In the hand of a spanker.

How to Avoid Belt Bite:
~ Exercise caution when approaching.
~ Do not tease or provoke.
~ Always be a good girl!

Symptoms of Belt Bite:
~ Pain in and around the impacted area.
~ Swelling and redness.
~ Crying and sobbing.

Treating Belt Bite:
~ Gentle rubbing.
~ Arnica.
~ Lots of hugs!

*Enjoying Discipline?*

It’s safe to assume that given the consensual nature of adult spanking that the people that engage in it do so at least in part because they enjoy it. We know we certainly do. It’s easy to have fun with lots of aspects of spanking too. The playful and fun… the erotic and sexual… the chance to meet so many neat people that share our interests… collecting implements… cool videos and pictures… parties. Lots to pick from.

The discipline side is definitely a different story though. It is supposed to be motivating for the spanking. Something to dislike and work to avoid. So the opposite of enjoyment. And then the spanker… well, it seems they should be driven by a desire to help and that they should have a ‘this is for your own good’ approach. If the spanker enjoys giving a discipline spanking, if that’s the primary driving force – it seems like they might LOOK for reasons to give them.

That said though, the spanking world is filled with written stories, videos and pictures depicting discipline spankings. Those things are popular because they are enjoyed. So a bit of a dichotomy there.

Or maybe not? Perhaps discipline spanking works just fine if spankee and/or spanker enjoy it… or maybe it really doesn’t work as a motivator, but that’s okay anyway.

This week at the Roundtable we’d like to talk about enjoying discipline spankings. As always we welcome any and all to share. We’d love to hear from you so please don’t be shy. Here are a few questions to get the discussion started.

Do you enjoy anything about giving/receiving real discipline spankings, and if so what? What about discipline spankings that don’t involve you… stories, videos, etc… do you enjoy anything about those? Would you have an issue if your spankee/spanker enjoyed receiving/giving real discipline spankings? What if that enjoyment was their main reason for engaging in real discipline spankings?

We invite you to leave a comment below, or if you like you can Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com and we’ll post your thoughts in the Sunday Roundtable Wrap-up.

Also have the Quick Response Poll and we do invite you to share your vote there too.

Thanks for reading and have a great weekend!

Do you enjoy giving/receiving real discipline spankings? No way, never. Occasionally. Yes, about half the time. Yes, usually. Yes, always. Current Results

Suzy recently had a doctors visit where she had her blood pressure medication adjusted. Her doctor stressed the importance of taking the prescribed dosage on time. Right away though Suzy was late taking her meds… then she missed. That earned her a spanking, which Suzy didn’t think was very fair. She had her excuses for being late and missing, but must of all she didn’t like the spanking came without any sort of “warning.” She felt she should have been told that she’d get a discipline spanking if she messed up taking her blood pressure pills.

But we have a long-long standing rule about Suzy taking care of herself and her health and how failing to do so would mean a spanking. Missing BP meds is certain a health issue… thus the spanking.

Honestly though that spanking was more of a reminder. It was a brisk hand spanking, not so much a full-on session. With no warm-up it definitely did pack some real ouch to it, but it was certainly more reminder than discipline. Mainly we sat down and agreed to firm rules on taking her pills. The deal… take them at 10am and 10pm… and if you miss by more than 15 minutes it’s a spanking. A spanking that will be a lot harder than the reminder-type you just got.

Suzy understood the rule and agreed to follow it. But… she still thought the spanking she got was unfair.

So the very next day she gets up in the morning and takes her medication at 9:30… 30 minutes early and clearly outside of the “15 minute” window she’d been given. Suzy’s argument was that since she wasn’t late, she shouldn’t be in trouble… and besides, “30 minutes doesn’t make a difference.”

Really though it was just Suzy’s way of lashing back at the “unfair” spanking she’d gotten the day before. Sort of her way of sticking it to the man.

Uh-huh. So, here is the video of what Suzy got for missing her 15 minute rule by 15 (early) minutes. In other news, Suzy has been right on time since then!

Here is the video…

Short-short update this week as we are having quite the day. Suzy saw her kidney doctor this week and has a plan in place. This should end the kidney stone problem for at least a while. That will be a huge relief. Diet and exercise wise things are going quite well for Suzy. She has been doing great losing weight since the move… very proud of her.

Todd’s health this week has been good and his calf is healed enough that he has started walking. Weather is perfect for it too.

More news coming soon… take care until then.

We’ve both been online since the very early 1990s. We both started on AOL where we posted on different message board groups… including a message board about spanking. And then a little while later we found different spanking themed newsgroups, which also used a message board format. A lot of fun and we definitely enjoyed meeting people that were into the same things we were. In fact, we met on a spanking message board back in the later 90s.

A popular topic for threads back in the day were survey questions where a list of activities were given and you’d share how many of them you’d done. Wish we still had access to those… and other… posts from way back when. We did however stumble into one of those old survey questions and we’re going to share it here today… along with our results.

Here is a list of spanking related activities. How many of them have you done?

General:
1. Posted to a spanking newsgroup/bulletin board/mailing list?
2. Bought/downloaded spanking pictures?
3. Bought/downloaded spanking magazines or literature?
4. Been in a spanking chat room?
5. Bought spanking-related books in a real bookstore?
6. Written a spanking story?
7. Looked up the word “spank” in the dictionary?
8. Bought/watched a spanking video?
9. Cyber-spanked someone or been cyber-spanked?
10. Watched someone else get spanked in real life?
11. Been to a fetish shop such as Kinematics or Stormy Leather?
12. Purchased toys specifically for spanking?
13. Made your own spanking toys?
14. Spent more than $100 on a single spanking toy?
15. Owned 10 or more spanking toys?
16. Had a spanking fantasy while masturbating?
17. Had a spanking fantasy about a real life spanking you’d seen/read about?
18. Had a spanking fantasy while having sex?
19. Spanked/been spanked while touching intimately?
20. Spanked/been spanked during sex?
21. Given/had an orgasm while spanking/being spanked?
22. Spanked/been spanked with no specifically sexual overtones whatsoever?
23. Spanked/been spanked on the bare bottom?
24. Spanked/been spanked for more than 10 minutes?
25. Spanked/been spanked for more than an hour?
26. Been involved in a situation where if something went wrong, the only means to stop the scene was a safeword?
27. Used your safeword/ had someone use their safeword?
28. Spanked/been spanked where there was no safeword?

Spanked/been spanked with:
29. A hand?
30. Paddle?
31. Hairbrush?
32. Ruler?
33. Spoon?
34. Cane?
35. Switch/birch?
36. Crop?
37. Belt/strap?
38. Flogger/whip?
39. Implement with holes?
40. Ordinary object not intended for spanking, such as a remote control or shoe?

Have you ever:
41. Broken a toy (over someone’s bottom) during spanking play?
42. Switched? (been spanked if you are primarily a top, or spanked someone if you are primarily a bottom)
43. Spanked/been spanked on the back of the thighs?
44. Spanked/been spanked on the front of/inside of the thighs?
45. Spanked/been spanked on the breasts/genitals?
46. Wet your/your partner’s bottom to make it sting more?
47. Spanked/been spanked outside?
48. Spanked/been spanked in a hotel?
49. Spanked/been spanked in a car?
50. Spanked/been spanked in a bath, shower or hot tub?
51. Made someone do something/been made to do something they/you did not want to do?
52. Punished someone/been punished for not doing something correctly or refusing to do something in a scene?
53. Punished someone/been punished for a real life issue?
54. Used spanking “talk”? (ie “You’ve been very naughty,” “I’ll be good.” etc.)
55. Been involved in the acting out of a roleplay fantasy?
56. Been involved in the acting out of an ageplay fantasy?
57. Asked for/been asked for a spanking?
58. Made someone/been made to count the spanks?
59. Made someone stand/stood in the corner?
60. Made someone stand/stood in the corner for more than 5 minutes?
61. Been provoked/provoked someone into spanking you by acting like a brat?
62. Deliberately disobeyed/had someone deliberately disobey, in order to get spanked?
63. Kept a list of “infractions” to spank/be spanked for later?
64. Spanked yourself?
65. Spanked yourself at the instruction of someone else/instructed someone to spank him/herself?
66. Required someone to/been required to call someone Sir/Ma’am, Master/Mistress, Mommy/Daddy, some-other-variation during spanking play?
67. Met someone specifically for spanking play?
68. Traveled more than 100 miles to spank/be spanked?
69. Placed/answered a spanking personal?
70. Gone to a play party or club?
71. Participated in play with someone at a play party or club?
72. Spanked/been spanked by someone whose name you didn’t know?
73. Paid or been paid to spank someone?
74. Been involved in a spanking scene with more than one person at a time?
75. Spanked/been spanked by both men and women? (not necessarily at the same time)
76. Spanked/been spanked on a spanking horse or some other piece of furniture specifically designed for spanking?
77. Made videotapes of your spanking play?
78. Taken pictures of/had your partner take pictures of you during or after spanking play?
79. Admired your/your partner’s bottom in the mirror after a spanking?
80. Spanked someone/been spanked nude?
81. Bought new underwear specifically for spanking play?
82. Worn fetish clothing (schoolgirl outfit, leather, etc?)
83. Worn fetish clothing in public?
84. Spanked/been spanked so that the spankee had trouble sitting afterward?
85. Spanked/been spanked so that the spankee had trouble sitting the next day?
86. Spanked/been spanked so there were marks/bruises showing?
87. Spanked/been spanked so there were marks/bruises showing for more than a day?
88. Had to explain your marks to a vanilla person?

Been involved with any of the following in connection with spanking play:
89. Restraint (ie. holding someone down, trapping their legs, etc.)
90. Restraint with ropes, cuffs, scarves or other bondage toys?
91. Blindfolds?
92. Gags?
93. Nipple clamps/clothespins?
94. Icy hot or some other heat-enhancing cream?
95. Ginger root or some other burning/stinging substance inserted anally?
96. A butt plug, dildo or vibrator?
97. Mouthsoaping?
98. Enemas?
99. Temperature taking?
100. Cried/made someone cry from a spanking?

Todd Says:  I had 87 yes answers. There are a few questions that are yes for bottoms or switches only… like #64, “Spanked Yourself?” or #88, “Had to explain your marks to a vanilla person?”  I have instructed someone to self-spank, and I have helped a spankee explain marks to a vanilla person.  So if questions like that had been worded better, I could have given yes answers.

One no answer that surprised me a bit was #94, ever been involved with “Icy hot or some other heat-enhancing cream?”  Thinking about it I can’t recall a time that I have done that.  I’ve been around others who have done it, and I’m not opposed to the idea.  Just hasn’t ever come up.

Also never done #98, “Enemas?”  Not opposed to that idea either, though to be honest I worry about it being messy and/or gross.  I would try giving an enema though, I think.

Suzy Says: I had 96 yes answers.  My four no answers were #14, “Spent more than $100 on a single spanking toy?,” #73, “Paid or been paid to spank someone,” #95, “Ginger root or some other burning/stinging substance inserted anally?“ and #98, “Enemas.“

So it looks like I have some things to add to my ‘to do’ list!