The world is filled with potential spanking implements. Some are obvious… paddles, belts, brushes, canes. Some are a little more off-beat and then others are flat out strange. Here’s a half dozen of those strange options.  Enjoy!

1 ~ Number One Foam Finger
This #1 is a Nebraska Cornhuskers finger, which is being used to spank a girl from Virginia Tech. Foam is indeed a strange choice for a spanking implement. Can’t imagine it has much of an ouch factor… though there are surely lots of spankees that still think it’s a great(!) idea for an implement. The real pain of getting spanked by a #1 Foam Finger would have to be from the embarrassment, most especially if it comes with gloating from a fan of the winning team. “Your team lost, so bend over, grab your ankles and get ready for the finger!” (lol, that sounds WAY kinkier than a spanking!)

2 ~ Hammer
Remember MC Hammer aned his song lyric from the 1980s that had the line ”It’s hammer time”… that was NOT a spanking song! While foam is silly soft, a hammer is crazy hard. Can’t be a lot of give in that implement. The shape is all wrong too. Can’t recommend hammer time at all. There are definitely better things to get nailed with. For a cute staged spanking picture though, it might work. Throw a sombrero on and it is indeed a winner. Just… Please Hammer, don’t hurt ‘em!

3 ~ Fish
And you thought a hammer was a fishy choice! In an ocean of strange implements, this is… okay, enough… we need to scale back on the puns…  A fish as a spanking implement is just gross! While this picture is probably staged, we know for a fact a fish has been used as an actual spanking implement. We saw it on the Howard Stern Show several years ago. Won’t go into detail, but let’s just say the fish’s eyeballs didn’t stay put… ewww. Yep, a fish is a yucky choice.

4 ~ Dust Buster
Something a little nicer on the list, which is a surprise given it have the word BUSTER in it. A buster made of feathers can’t be that bad though. Different sizes, shapes and colors create lots of different options. Not going to give much of spanking, but there are some sensation play options. Might be nice for aftercare too. This is a strange spanking implement that might actually make it’s way into some spanko bags (unlike the fish, lol).

5 ~ Violin Bow
The modern violin dates back nearly 500 years and it remains a symbol of harmony, stability and refined tastes. The bow of a quality violin is hand crafted and strung with hair from the tail of a gray male horse and costs many hundreds of dollars. So… it’s an obvious spanking implement! Well, maybe not… . Based on some black and white photos we have stumbled into through the years though, getting spanked with a bow wasn’t totally unheard of years ago. Perhaps it was the punishment for not hitting the right note? Does seem like it could give a pretty decent spanking too, though given the cost you wouldn’t want to break it (the bow that is, guess the spankee is on her own… lol).

6 ~ Skateboard
Skateboards have been around since the 1960s and thanks to sites like YouTube the popularly of skateboarding tricks continues to grow. Have to be careful though… don’t want to get hurt. And speaking of stunts that will get you hurt, using a skateboard as a spanking implement probably isn’t the safest idea. Pretty much guaranteed to leave a mark. Would be really easy to explain that mark though. “Hey, how did you get that mark on your butt?” “Oh that, I got it messing around with a skateboard.”

Our son had senior prom this last weekend. He looked so good in his tuxedo. The kid really does clean up nicely. We got some picture taken at the park by the waterfall, which is a tradition here. Got to see lots of his friends dressed up getting pictures taken too, which was nice for us.

We’re really glad he decided to go so that he’d have that memory/experience. He had a great time too. Graduation day is only about two weeks away now. Summer is almost here!

As for us, besides keeping busy with prom stuff, we have been getting our home business ready for the summer. There are some projects we can do on the road, others that have to be wrapped up before we go. That’s kept us busy. We actually have gotten ahead of the curve though, so we’re feeling pretty good about that.

Diet wise, things are going really well. We’ve stuck to our healthy eating plans pretty closely. A couple of bumps in the road back in April, and you always wonder/worry that that will lead to things sort of falling apart. That’s not happened though.

A big key to that has been our tracking what we eat. That’s probably the best new habit we have been working on building. It’s what keeps us from drifting. It’s one thing to eat and just sort of forget about it… and another to really have to own it by tracking it. That tracking system also is what creates accountability.

Speaking of which… let’s see… Suzy hasn’t sent a daily in, in two days now. This after getting a spanking for that very issue last week. hmmm, wonder how that decision is going to work out for her?

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Friends Update

Carye: Carye had herself a good week. A really good week, actually. She was down a little over a pound. Good girl hugs for our friend! Her dietician made some adjustments to her plan and that helped. A big help too was the spanking she earned last week. That got her motivated to stick with the plan, and positive results followed. Hope she keeps it going!

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Jean: Jean had a lovely weekend. She attended the wedding of a mutual friend. We so-so wish we could have gone, but with the prom stuff we had and all it just wasn’t an option. We are sending our friend lots of hugs on her big day though… and we look forward to spanking the bride… We’re going to try and figure out a way to see Jean this month too, really hoping that can happen. She’s been a good girl most of the time, but it would be nice being able to have a clean slate heading into summer… and of course, we miss her!

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Courtney: Courtney is a busy new mom and we totally understand that. Look forward to catching up with her real soon. Curious when she will get her first spanking since having the baby.

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Maxine: Maxine remains a busy girl. Not only has she struggled with health issues of her own, but her dad is in the hospital right now dealing with some health problems. We’re worried about him and he is very much in our thoughts. As for rules, Maxine REALLY pushed things on Mother’s Day. Broke a couple of rules there. But, a lot of that was in making things special for her mother… which we totally understand. Of course, mom can still have a special day and dinner if you order something healthy… right? We’ll see if Maxine agrees with us when she is getting paddled.

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Autumn Red: Autumn has had some rules added to her healthy eating planning, mainly having to do with keeping more exact track of food and exercise. She is thrilled about it too… NOT! She wants to do things her own way, and that includes a crash diet heading into the summer. To her credit though, Autumn has been a really good girl about respecting the dynamic we have with her and hasn’t fussed about the rule. She’s going to plunge ahead doing as she has been told… earning a much more comfortable bottom in the process.

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Good luck to everyone in the coming week. If you’re interested in the Spanking Diet, we’d like to invite you to check out the Yahoo Spanking Diet Group. It’s a great group. Almost 300 members now… lively discussions with lots of encouragement and idea sharing. We’d love to have you!

All you need is a free Yahoo account that lists your ~adult age~ in your *public profile*. Always feel fee to Email us at toddnsuzy@yahoo.com too… we always enjoy talking with new like-minded friends.

We’ve taken the plunge and opened up a Twitter account. We had resisted for some time in good part because we didn’t want to dedicated the time. But we have a couple of friends that are active on the site and we wanted to be able to follow them. Twitter also takes very-very little time. That’s actually one of the best things about it. You can catch up with casual friends and acquaintances pretty quickly.

We’d done that mostly… kept up with more casual friends… over at FetLife. That’s a pretty good site overall and it certainly does have its upside. However, there also tends to be a lot of drama and complaining (a ~lot~). Not going to add to the complaining by complaining about the complaining… lol… but at the end of the day we just don’t spend much time over there these days. Still do check in from time to time, of course. Twitter makes a lot of sense for us though.

Our name on Twitter is real easy… ToddnSuzy. Our tweets will focus on the fun and upbeat side of spanking, and will include lots of humor. We’ll also touch on vanilla topics, including our coming summer travels. Please feel free to follow us.

Do you believe there are more women today that are interested in spanking/kink than there were in past generations? If so what are the main reasons for the increase? What about men, do you believe the modern world has had a hand in more men becoming dominant or submissive?

Quite a bit deeper topic than we normally have here at the Roundtable, but we think we ended up with a good discussion. We certainly enjoyed it. A big thank you to everyone that took the time to share. Let’s jump right into the Roundtable Wrap-up by taking a look at the Quick Response Poll results.

Why are ~more~ women in today’s modern world interested in spanking, kink and submission?
Guilt free exploration (I’m submissive, so it’s not that *I* want kinky play). ~ 8%
It’s an escape from all the new found power they have. ~ 17%
The internet makes things so-so much easier. ~ 33%
The freedom to decide that comes from earning money. ~ 4%
Society has become more relaxed and accepting. ~ 13%
Something else. ~ 4%
There aren’t “more” women interested in BDSM today than there were years ago. ~ 21%

A wide range of opinions but the easy access the internet offers tops the list. A good number… over 1 in 5… don’t even agree with the premise of the question though. So a real mixed bag here!

We’ll move to this week’s comments and look for some clarity there (good luck!)…

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Autumnred said: This is a really good topic…I think the answer is the internet lets us know we’re not alone and women do have more independence and money…Money is power. I don’t like the guilt free exploration part…That rubs me the wrong way. If a woman wants to explore and play in this world and wants to be submissive, she damn well better be powerful enough in herself to only get into submissive experiences that will be ok for her…I only know what allowed me to get into this lifelong fantasy: finally breaking religious barriers, a bit of extra cash and extra time for the first time in my life, finding my own personal power….

~The original article did make the point that real freedom and power is needed to make the decision to explore one’s submissive side. Some feminists make that very point. Of course, others totally disagree. We think you make a good point about religious freedom too. It really wasn’t that long ago that the church had a massive impact on the decisions people made. The idea of exploring kink was out of question because… what would the church think? That largely is not the case in today’s world… though without question, the church still does have that impact on some (your story being a good example).~

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Terri said: Any and/or All of the above. Spanking gone mainstream? You’re not kidding. SO many shows have references to it, its a little scary. But you know, in direct contrast to this theme, what my favourite mainstream spanking reference is? Its off a hospital drama here in Australia, so most of you won’t recognise it…. I think. Anyhow, the two characters are both medical staff. The man, oddy, seems the more submissive of the pair…either that or he’s just an incorrigible flirt….er, actually, it might be option two. This isn’t the first time he’s dared his female ‘boss’ to spank him, or made references to being spanked. (He’s a doctor, she’s the Nurse Unit Manager…anyone who’s going to understand this one already knows who I’m talking about just from that little tidbit!) Anyhow, lines (from the doctor) such as ‘oh yes, time for my spanking!” and “I don’t have a repertoire (sp?) you’ve beaten it out of me” are brilliant. Oh, and this little exchange: “well, so much for me having ‘beaten it out of you’.” “When we get home, hop in!”

Half a season later, the doctor’s character died. I miss him. I had a gigantic crush on him. I think I still harbour it. Anyhow, he’s on my ‘spanky fantasy’ list…. so’s she, weirdly enough….although I never worked out which of them was the submissive.

There’s plenty of spanking references on sitcoms like Frasier and M*A*S*H. I seem to believe a few sitcoms have even actually HAD spanking scenes. Joey (the FRIENDS (sp?) spin off) comes to mind. So does a british sitcom called As Time Goes By, which early in the third season actually has a four swatter. (Well, some folks would see it that way. Others might just call them pats-love or otherwise-but we of a particular persuasion would probably see them as swats)

And now that I’ve derailed this topic, I’ll buzz off so the topic can get back on track.

~We agree that everything mentioned has had some impact. That certainly includes the many references to spanking that come out of the mainstream… that is, adult consensual spanking references. That does make exploring spanking a lot easier. It’s just not THAT far out there.~

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sixofthebest said: In today’s society, spanking has become less taboo. Plus the internet makes it easier, just like the delightful spanking blog called American Spanking Society.

~Well thank you very much! We do think the spanking blog community does make it easier too… including your fine blog… ~

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Jimmy said: I firmly believe that, as a percentage of the population, women (& men) are not more or less into adult consensual spanking then they were many years ago. I do believe that things have gotten a lot easier thanks in part to the internet. I also believe that society has become more & more accepting of different things. For example, years ago, inter-racial relationships were illegal in lots of states. Now, not only is it extremely common, we are talking about legalizing marriage between couples of the same sex. While I don’t equate homosexuality with TTWD, the fact that they are both “outside the mainstream” lends to some comparisons. I don’t like to refer to TTWD as a “kink”. That makes it seem bent or wrong in some way. This is just who we are. Period.

~We too see many things in common between the gay and spanking communities. There was a time that both HAD to be hidden… but as society has matured… it has become much easier.~

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Suzy Says: I think there are probably more women today interested because of the availability (due to the internet) of spanking and kinky things out there.

For some women, like myself, it was an untouched urge that I couldn’t really explain. I got spanked as a child but didn’t have any desire for that at the time so I couldn’t connect it with that. I enjoyed rough playful sex once I starting having sex, but anytime spanking was suggested it seemed either embarrassing or silly, even if both people enjoyed it. It wasn’t a topic openly discussed so it was kept pretty hush hush and done only very rarely.

But since the internet, participating people, lengthy discussions, and plenty of information about spanking can be found so it’s grown a whole new life for me. Without the internet, I most likely would have never met Todd and he was literally the only person in a message board of hundreds of readers/posters who even mentioned adult spanking activities. Hence the immediate attraction

As far as the modern world creating more submissive or more dominant females, I don’t think so. I think your personality is always the way it is and while some things (environment, friendships, life situations) can bring out your traits, you are what you are. I’ve always been attracted to dominant men and I’ve always desired the old fashioned head of household type of relationship, however my submissive side had to be put aside due to life responsibilities until I found Todd to share my life with. My personality is best described as a submissive soul with an independent spirit.

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Todd Says: I do believe there are more people interested in kink today than there were in past generations. It takes ~free time~ to be able to explore kink. Without that, it’s just a passing idea that can’t be acted on. We, as a society, are certainly blessed with lots of free time too.

I think the internet has a pretty massive impact too. I can recall having free time earlier in my life and using it to, say… look the word “spanking” up in the dictionary or search around the ‘bad side of town’ for a spanking magazine (which was close to impossible to find). Today, it’s easy to take that same time and find so-so much more. Merely typing the word “spanking” into a search engine opens up an entire new world. In the past, even if someone had the time and interest to explore kink… they well could have gotten no where.

So time and technology has played a big role in drawing more people to kink.

What kind of kink though, that I don’t know. Are more people being drawn to spanking than other kinks… and further… are more women drawn to the submissive spanking role? It seems that way, but I say that fully realizing that I am far more connected with the spanking world than I am… say… pony play or cock-and-ball torture (or even pony play WITH some cock and ball torture thrown in… lol). For all I know, those fetishes have seen a huge influx of new women. I have seen that the larger BDSM scene has grown. There are new clubs and groups all over the place and lots of newbies checking them out (merely my observation). So I do suspect that it’s not just spanking that has grown.

And then as far as women embracing their submissive side… hmmm… I think the same reasoning can be used to explain why more women are embracing their dominant side. That they’re more at ease with taking that role… that the new power that women hold makes topping less of a taboo for them.

I do believe that more and more people have embraced kink, but where they land in this wide world depends on how they’re wired coming in. Some women are submissive with a hardwired interest in spanking… and that’s exactly where they end up. Other women come into kink with a different mindset and hardwiring and thus they end up elsewhere.

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All the pictures in this week’s Roundtable Wrap-up come from Spanking Sarah Gregory. Sarah offers a wide selection of traditional disciplinary spankings, playful spankings and sensual spanking… from the biggest stars in the spanking world as well as the newest faces. Six updates a week makes for a great value too. Well worth checking out!

Mother’s Day doesn’t have much to do with spanking, right? Probably true, but if you really try… … you can make the connection. Here are some fun comics for the day… and Happy Mother’s Day wishes to all the moms out there.

We need to have a talk young lady… about a post from last year. We had a lot of fun with this one.

Enjoy!

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You’re sitting at the kitchen table minding your own business when suddenly the spanker in your life says, “we need to have a talk, young lady.” You feel your tummy do a little flip as you know this conversation isn’t likely to go well. As he starts to talk, you realize your instincts were dead on. He goes on about a misdeed that you’d hoped he had missed. Your bottom is in great jeopardy, and you know it.

He makes his case, and then asks… “so what do you have to say for yourself?”

You don’t want a spanking, but what can you say to avoid it?

Here are your options…

1. Confess ~ be a big girl and admit fault and come clean about what you did. No, lol, seriously this IS an option. But since it almost guarantees a spanking, and it has been established that you DONT want one, there is really no upside. This is best left as a total last resort… like *after* the spanking is over!

2. Apologize ~ skip past the confession stuff and go right to, “I am so sorry.” This one offers the advantage of taking the focus off of the actual misdeed, which can only be a good thing. A spanker doesn’t need to be thinking about that. But, it opens the door to that entire, “I’ll give you something to be sorry about”… so forget THAT garbage.

3. Beg / Cry ~ instead of confessing or even apologizing, move straight to high pitched pleas such as, “PLEASE, I don’t want a spanking!” and turn on the tears in the process to show you really mean it. This one could work if your spanker has a heart. Plus, maybe he doesn’t realize you don’t want a spanking? Uh, yea… doesn’t sound like a spanker to me! Might as well just spank yourself as opposed to hearing, “I’ll give you something to cry about.”

4. Implicate Others ~ confess and maybe even throw in some apologies and begging in there, but point out how it wasn’t YOUR idea and “she did it too!” This a favorite of the ‘bus driver crowd’ (ie: throw a fellow spankee under the bus). The advantage is you’re not getting spanked alone, so maybe your spanker will tire out. But, you are STILL getting spanked. Plus, there is the risk of getting extra for being a “tattle-tale.” There have to be better options.

5. Claim unfairness ~ point out you didn’t know that was a rule, or you were just spanked, or you are tired, or that it just ISN’T fair! Since life should be fair, maybe this could work?? uhhh… who are we kidding here! Spankers are not known for their sense of fairness. Next!

6. Bribe ~ offer a massage or sexual favors, promise to clean his car or mow the lawn… whatever he wants to just skip this conversation. Spankers might not be fair, but they do have their own needs and desires. Sadly though, if they’ve started this conversation… those desires include spanking you. So, offering a bribe not only won’t work… but you’ll likely end up giving an extra massage or whatever in addition to the spanking. Don’t think so!

7. Run and Hide ~ head for the hills or hide under the bed. Avoidance WILL work, no question about that. But, at some point you’re going to have to face the music… and it is going to be worse if this tactic is used. So as tempting as this one is at the time, it is best not used.

8. Excuses ~ explain the reason for the misdeed, that it wasn’t you being naughty or disobeying but rather you were driven by factors Mr Spanker is not aware of. This one seemingly can work! If there are “reasons”… we won’t call them excuses… he’ll have no choice but to let it slide. In fact, he’ll probably offer an apology for even bringing it up! Two things though. First, it takes a reasonable person to listen to reasonable reasoning… and spankers are anything but reasonable. So, it is a fools errand. Then… secondly… it’s at least 50/50 that your offering reasons will lead to Mr UNreasonable finding yet another reason to spank you! “Oh, so you thought such and such… well, we are going to have to talk about that too young lady.” Not exactly the result you had in mind!

9. Distraction ~ throw everything you can think of up there at once in hopes of confusing the situation. Something like, “Oh I didn’t know that was a rule, but Jane told me to do it so maybe you should talk to her. Plus, I need to pack for that trip we’re taking next month… speaking of which, did you get that time off work? Oh wait, I need to run and get the massage oil first so I can work on that sore shoulder of yours. I have SO much to do! Sorry I get so busy. Will you please accept my apology?” The hope is he’ll be so confused that he’ll forget about the spanking and just nod “yes” and you’re off the hook. Unfortunately though, the sad fact is… he is a guy… so he quit listening 4 words in. All he heard was, “Oh, I didn’t know”… and that’s all he knows. You’re still getting spanked, and will just be out of breath when it happens. Next!

10. Deny ~ claim “it wasn’t me” and further, “I don’t know a thing about it!” The opposite of confession, and while it offers the chance of getting out of a spanking… it does come with real risk. If the evidence turns out to show otherwise, the price will likely double. And heck, even if the evidence shows no such thing… since when has that mattered? Way too risky to flatly deny it.

Let’s face it, the situation is hopeless. When he says “talk“… he means he will be talking and spanking… and you will be listening and getting spanked. Ah well, sitting at the kitchen table was getting boring anyway.

*Modern Women & Submission*

A much more in-depth topic this week here at the Roundtable and those honestly have never proved to be very popular. Still we think this is worth talking about, so here we go!

Newsweek recently ran an article entitled, “Spanking Goes Mainstream.” Certainly got us interested enough to check the article out. Turns out it wasn’t really all that focused on spanking. While it certainly did touch on the topic, it was more about submission in general. For those that haven’t had a chance to check it out, here is a quick summary of what was said…

Women in the modern world have gained a great deal of power. Almost 60% of college students are women. 4 in 10 wives out earn their husbands in the workplace and that number is growing each year. Many women are making the decision to have children and supporting them on their own. In economic terms women are far less dependent on men than they were in past generations.

Yet huge numbers of women are eagerly consuming a wide range of stories featuring women in submissive roles. Books such as “Fifty Shades of Grey” by E.L James, the movie “A Dangerous Method” and the HBO series “Girls” are just a few examples. Submissive women are big sellers in our modern world.

That level of submission can be to extremes too. An analysis from Psychology Today of 20 different published studies finds that somewhere between 31 and 57% of women entertain fantasies where they are forced to have sex. The market to sell that fantasy has grown. More tame fantasies… such as being paddled for a misdeed… are surely even more popular.

More than a few women take fantasy and turn it into reality. A quick glance around the internet shows how popular different spanking and BDSM groups have become.

The question is… are there really more women with an interest in spanking and BDSM today and if so, how come? While those interests have always existed the article is confident the numbers have grown. The desire to perhaps not have to own one’s own sexuality… I am submissive so while I do experience these things, it’s not really MY choice (so guilt free kink for me!)… is a pretty traditional reason given for women being submissive. The article doesn’t put much stock in that though. In fact, modern research is used to refute the idea. Women that engage in kink are actually LESS likely to have issues with sexual guilt.

Instead the growth of BDSM is attributed to women having more power and a desire to escape all that strength and independence even if just briefly.

It’s an interesting theory and one we’re not sure we fully buy. When men had ALL the power, were there lots of submissive men running around day dreaming about being spanked and dominated? Then again, men and women are different.

There are other factors that come to mind though. One is definitely the internet. If a woman desired to be spanked in the 1980s… if she had Master/slave fantasies… chances are she believed she was the only woman on the planet to think about such things. The internet lets her know she’s not alone. It also makes it a LOT easier to find a partner that shares her desires.

Could also be that power does indeed have a lot to do with it, just not for the reason stated in the article. Power… basically making money… allows certain freedoms that past generations of women did not enjoy. Would be pretty tough to ask your dad or husband for $600 so you could fly to an out of state kink event. A woman that supports herself gets to make the decision all on her own. Is pursuing this fantasy worth spending money… that’s strictly up to her.

Society has definitely lightened up too. Wasn’t all that many years ago that kink events were raided by the police. So beyond the massive social stigima attached to being kinky, there were also very real legal risks. These days it’s pretty relaxed. We have gone to lots of kink parties held in major hotels.

So we really don’t know what might be causing more women to embrace kink, if that is indeed the case. We’d like to hear your thoughts on the subject and as always we warmly welcome any and all to share. Here are a few questions to get the dicussion started.

Do you believe there are more women today that are interested in spanking/kink than there were in past generations? If so what are the main reasons for the increase? What about men, do you believe the modern world has had a hand in more men becoming dominant or submissive?

We invite you to leave a comment below, or if you like you can Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com and we’ll post your thoughts in the Sunday Roundtable Wrap-up.

Also have the Quick Response Poll and we do invite you to share your vote there too.

Thanks for reading and have a great weekend!