Submitting in Trust
Keagen is a good friend of ours. She’s a smart young lady with a kind heart. Also happens to be an excellent writer. We have always enjoyed her stories and posts. A little while back though circumstances forced her to take a break. She deleted her old site… so, obviously we had to remove her link.

Well, we’re happy to share that Keagen is back and going strong. Her new blog focuses largely on her relationship with Kentucky OTK Guy. Honest insights into her journey to, well… submit in trust. Spanking is definitely a part of that, but this blog offers a wider view. It’s more personal diary than traditional spanking blog. Not that there isn’t spanking going on, mind you. It’s just not spank-spank-spank. You just get plenty of Keagen too, which is a good thing!

We’re happy to add Keagen’s link to our blog and do hope you’ll pop in on her and say hi.

Chelsea Pfeiffer Entertainment
We’re big fans of HotMovies. Easy to use, you pick just the scenes you’re interested in, instant access and prices as low as 8 cents a minute. Can’t beat it. One of our favorites on the site is Chelsea Entertainment studios.

We’ve had the pleasure of meeting Chelsea. Very nice woman and a true spanko. She really pours herself into producing the best spanking content she can too. Big help of course that she really loves her work!

CPE specializes in girl spanking girl videos. Smart story lines with energetic and lovely young ladies getting spanked… with some discipline scenarios as well as some sensual / erotic spankings. They do a very good job with both too.

The thing we really like though are the playful spanking videos. They offer uncensored and unedited videos of real spanking play sessions. Real spankos spanking they way they really spank… very cool.

Lots and lots of lovely girls, some M/F spankings in the mix, plenty of different scenarios… lots to pick from. And like we say, with HotMovies it’s easy to do. Take a peek… and right now, you can get 10 minutes for totally free and with no obligation.

What are your thoughts about struggling during a spanking? Do you or your spanker ever do anything to minimize it? If so, what is the most common method used? What do you think of restraints being used?

We really enjoyed hearing how spankos handle struggling during a spanking. Some interesting thoughts and ideas. Let’s jump right into the Roundtable Wrap-Up by taking a look at the Quick Response Poll results.

What is the most common method you use (or have used) to minimize struggling during a spanking?
Spanker’s hands and/or legs. ~ 50%
Ropes, cuffs, straps, etc. ~ 12%
Adding more spanks. ~ 11%
Corner-time / a pause. ~ 10%
Struggling isn’t an issue. ~ 14%
N/A – no spankings, yet. ~ 4%

Half use some sort of body on body restraint, which makes sense. A spanker usually has a spare hand of foot handy. There are certainly are a wide collection of other approaches though. And of course, it’s possible to use more that one approach.

To get a look at some of those other approaches we move to this week’s comments. A big thank you to everyone that took the time to share too.

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munchkin said: My experience pretty much involves play spankings or at most mock-discipline type play. I still mostly try not to struggle or get away, but then of course once it gets too intense….then the wiggling/squirming starts, maybe some kicking or reaching back. The most common thing I’ve had done is for the spanker to hold my wrist and continue with the spanking, I’m small so they rarely have much trouble holding me in place beyond that. On occasion some have done the one leg over my legs thing as well, but usually too much kicking or squirming results in something like slaps to the thighs. I’ve never had anything like hands tied/cuffed done.

~Sounds like several different approaches are used, which makes sense. A lot depends on the spanking. Sometimes the threat of extra spanks is more than enough… sometimes it takes more.~

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Cowgirl said: Struggling? what’s that? haha! Well, for me it depends on the type of spanking. If it’s for play, I struggle and fight a bit, but that’s because I love to wrestle. It’s usually not a big deal. However, if it’s for discipline, I just take it… no struggling, no fighting. I try to remain as still as I can, and just accept it. There’s this little saying in the back of my head, “don’t disappoint me,” that I “hear” if I’m being spanked for a purpose; that keeps me from fighting and/or struggling. That saying was left with me by Mr. Hardass. I know what he would expect had he been the one administering the spanking, and struggling wouldn’t be tolerated one bit. So his little phrase helps me control myself, as i wouldn’t want to disappoint him. Strange how that works, but it does.

~Very good point about struggling during a playful spanking. That can work… if it’s not too-too much… in certain types of spankings. There are definitely spankees and spankers that enjoy that.~

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Rose said: For a discipline spanking, although I try to remain still, it is of course sometimes difficult. However, my legs are always restrained…pinned beneath the right leg of my spanker limiting my movement. I am also given a pillow to hold, which I usually maintain a death grip on. This is sort of like self restraint. The harder the spanking gets the tighter the grip on the pillow. I have yet to attempt to reach back when I am being disciplined. Personally I am not sure if I would be comfortable with restraints being used, but at the same time, if it was for my safety I would likely submit to it…mostly because my spanker knows what he is doing and I trust him.

~Know quite a few spankees that hold a pillow… or stuffed animal, blanket, etc… to help keep in place. Might offer a little bit of comfort too, something to cling to.~

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Naomi said: I picked ‘more spanks’ but really all of the above could be used. When it comes to discipline spankings, although I take them and agree to them, I am definitely a struggler! I have a low pain tolerance and after the third or fourth hard swat my brain goes from submissive to ‘holy hell get me out of here!’. He holds me down, but I am really strong and can break free from his restraints if I want to.. we use restraints sometimes, as well. The best method, though, is for him to swat the back of my thigh, or just a little high up on my bottom, or the back of my arm. Not super hard the way he is spanking me, but enough to make it sting. After a little bit of that I end up deciding I don’t want all of that extra stuff so I do my best to keep still =)

~Yep, we should have added ’spanks to the thighs’ as another option. That’s probably a pretty common method.~

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Poppy said: I struggle because I have to. It really hurts sometimes. I am ok at the start but then the sting builds and builds and it hurts. I only struggle with kicking my feet (up and down, not at him) and sometimes my hands go back to my bum. He chuckles at my feet and will sometimes take my hands and hold them in one of his paws behind my back.

I like that I can struggle and he is strong enough for it not to be an issue. I think sometimes he may use his voice, a low, somber telling off and that can make me feel very small and be very still. You ask the best questions.

~Well thank you for the nice compliment… Understand what you mean about the freedom to struggle, even though it doesn’t do much good.~

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jean said: I used to not struggle much. I don’t know if its my body changing or what, but now I do, especially with discipline spankings. I do have to be careful that I don’t hurt my legs, etc with the struggling. Restraints don’t work as I am too claustaphobic. Pinning my legs, holding my hand, etc do work. Telling me to move my hand, etc seems to work also.

~Yes, sometimes a simple verbal reminder is enough to get things back on track.~

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Pygmalion said: I’m voting “Struggling Isn’t An Issue”.

Struggling: in the play spankings I have delivered, it’s a very rare event. Mutual focus, mutual enjoyment. “A little more on that side.”/”Certainly.”

But, should I get the text on my way home from work, with those two simple words: “It’s on”. Then I walk through the door, find her, pin her down, deliver a hail of stinging spanks regardless of her squirming bottom, and then drag her to the bedroom to use that bottom as I see fit. Is this a rare event? Certainly.

But it comes every time.

~Your harder spankings sound like fun too!~

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Suzy Says: With all types of spankings, I react naturally, when the spanking doesn’t hurt, I don’t typically move much, when it does hurt, my leg kicks up automatically. If it hurts a lot, I clench up and might twist a bit. If it hurts enough that I want the next one to be not in the same spot, I might reach back. If it hurts more than I can easily take, I might struggle to the point of trying to get away. I’m very verbal so even the moderately hard spanks get verbal noises out of me, ohh, oww, nooooo.. if it hurts majorly (think discipline) sometime very bad words come out of my mouth.

Typically, a hand holding my legs down is enough or a light tap with a hand or implement on my foot, will remind me to try to keep them in place. If that doesn’t work, overlapping my legs with the spankers leg or using a restraint is an option.

Todd usually holds my legs down with his leg overlapping them. I recently had 007 use restraints and I thoroughly enjoyed it, so I don’t mind restraints at all

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Todd Says: I don’t have a problem with some struggling. It makes perfect sense to me. It’s a very natural reaction. The issue comes when struggling gets to be enough that the spanking becomes risky because a spank might land in the wrong place. Beyond the risk, the flow of the spanking can be changed by too much struggling.

When that happens, I am open to trying all sort of things. A warning is a good first step, then if that doesn’t work… adding spanks or spanks to the thighs is a good option. Corner-time to calm down is more advanced, but certainly something I’ll use. That can work pretty well too, especially when the struggling is more emotional than physical.

The most common by for though, is me using my own body to restrain a spankee. I use the ’scissor position’ in which I use my right leg to hold down a spankee’s legs at least 90% of the time (for discipline). I’ll also hold a spankee’s hand to her back if she doesn’t stay in place. To me, that has a very natural feel to it. Works well with the OTK position too.

I’ve never used restraints that I can recall. We do have a pair of soft handcuffs though, and have played with those a bit. Actual discipline though… I don’t know… I’d be open to trying… but it doesn’t seem to fit real well with a discipline spanking. Sort of like… okay, your scolding is over now… so now I am going to cuff you. Fun for other kinds of spankings. Discipline though… ehhh… maybe not so much.

I’ll add this too… a spankee that doesn’t move at all or offer any sort of reaction… is, well… kind of weird. It feels like she is detached from what is happening (talking discipline here, other types of spanking it can make sense).

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All the pictures in this week’s Roundtable Wrap-Up post come courtesy of Strict Spanking. Just recently found this site, but we’ve certainly been enjoying it. Lots of cool features, lovely spanking models and a good price.

This post isn’t really spanking related, but with school either having just started or getting ready to start across the country we thought you might enjoy this. These are actual papers/tests handed in to teachers. Actually, come to think about it… maybe this should be spanking related… lol… might be fitting for handing in answers like these.

Here is a fun post from last year in which we shared a unique way to leave a spanking mark.

Enjoy!

 
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The Dutch magazine Massad… the oldest S&M magazine in the Netherlands… was looking for a new low budget advertising campaign. They came up with an idea that’s proved to be a big hit!

They had a paddle specially designed to leave their logo… and one smack later, Massad had their advertising mark. Not sure how many people will actually ~see~ the advertisement, as folks don’t usually walk around in a thong. Then again, we’re sharing the picture here… as have others (such as Chross Guide).

So, guess their plan worked!

You can make your own spankvertising paddle too. Good chance you’ve seen the paddle with the Apple logo before. The techniques used to make that paddle can be applied to make other designs.

Here is what you do…

What you need:
~standard ping pong paddle (Walmart sells them)
~tape
~box cutter or better – an x-acto knife
~a safety scraper and sandpaper would also be helpful

Step 1
Find a design you like and print it out. Your design needs to *easily* fit on the ping pong paddle and you should avoid fine details. You must print the design BACKWARDS too… otherwise the actual mark the paddle leaves on a bare bottom will appear backwards.

Step 2
Cut your design out leaving ample boarders. Tape firmly onto the ping pong paddle, and then use your box cutter or x-acto knife to cut along the lines of your design. Press until you feel the wood of the paddle, no more and no less. Once you have cut completely around your design, peel the top layer away. It should come off easily, exposing the foam underneath.

Step 3
Remove the exposed foam padding. Scrapping the foam off is the toughest part of the job, as it’s tightly in place. You can use sandpaper for the finishing touches.

And there you go. We figure the spanking part is pretty easy.

*Struggling During a Spanking*

Pain is a part of spanking, especially a hard one. Those preparing to submit to a spanking are especially aware of this obvious fact, yet they willing accept the pain that is about to come.

But what we accept in our mind, doesn’t always translate into what we do. Sometimes our body, disagrees with the decision our mind has made… and isn’t willing to negotiate the point. There is a natural instinct to pull away from pain. It’s an evolutionary habit, that protects us from harm. Without it, we’d have to make ~the decision~ to take our hand off a hot stove. Nature has wisely eliminated those moments of contemplation.

This self-preserving instinct tends to kick in when one’s rear is burning from the pain of a firm spanking. Mild forms include things such as clinching up or wiggling legs… to twisting and turning, ‘blocking’ with the hand, kicking and pushing… to actually getting up. The body over-rides the mind, and tries to avoid the pain that is being inflicted.

This avoidance isn’t desirable. It is contrary to the desires of most spankees and spankers, and thus can take away from the spanking experience. This is a consensual act, one that is willingly accepted… and when it comes to discipline/punishment… it is earned. Too much struggling can leave a spankee feeling guilty about how well a spanking was received and a spanker confused about how well it was given. Struggling can also be dangerous. A spank that errantly lands on a finger/hand/wrist or somewhere on the lower back/tailbone because of a sudden movement can cause real damage. Most especially if a solid implement (such as a wood paddle) is being used.

There are options to avoid or at least minimize struggling. Simple restraints can be used, like the spanker using their free hand to hold the spankees hand down… all the way to using things like handcuffs, ropes or straps. A spanker can try to motivate by promising extra spanks or starting over. Corner-time can be used to allow the spankee to gather themselves. Lots of possible options.

This week at the Roundtable we’d like to talk about struggling during a spanking… what your thoughts are and how you handle it. As always, we welcome any and all to share. Would love to hear from you, so please don’t be shy.

Here are a few questions to get the discussion started.

What are your thoughts about struggling during a spanking? Do you or your spanker ever do anything to minimize it? If so, what is the most common method used? What do you think of restraints being used?

You can leave a comment below, or if you like you can Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com and we’ll post your thoughts in the Sunday Roundtable Wrap-up.

We also have a Quick Response Poll, and we do invite you to vote in that too. Hope you can participate.

Thanks for reading and have a great weekend!

What is the most common method you use (or have used) to minimize struggling during a spanking? Spanker’s hands and/or legs. Ropes, cuffs, straps, etc. Adding more spanks. Corner-time / a pause. Something else. Struggling isn’t an issue. N/A – no spankings, yet. Current Results

We recently were on a summer vacation trip that has us visiting friends on the way up to New York City for a Strictly Spanking New York spanking party… and then catching up with a couple of more friends on the way back home. Thought we’d share some of the fun here in a series of posts. Today we’re covering the last leg of the trip. Enjoy!

Cass
After our fun in New York we drove out of the city and got a hotel in New Jersey. Would have loved to have stayed in NYC, but the rates we found there were pretty high. We really only needed a place to sleep too, so New Jersey worked just fine. It had been a long day and we were sound asleep a few minutes after checking in.

After a good night’s sleep we got up and had breakfast before getting on the road. Didn’t have too long of a drive before getting to our friend Cass’ house. We first met Cass early this year and have built a very nice friendship with her since. Very sweet girl and we really enjoy her company.

Part of our friendship with Cass involves a discipline relationship. A few different issues that we’re helping her with, including staying on top of household chores. In the past she had a bad habit of putting off things like getting laundry and dishes done. She works a late shift, so it’s easy to fall into putting things off. That leads to a lot of clutter though and next thing you know there is a big mess.

To Cass’ credit though, her place was in perfect shape. She’d obviously put a lot of time into the details. Looked really nice. She got a nice good girl hug for her hard work.

It wasn’t all good girl news though. After relaxing and catching up for a bit there were a couple of issues to cover. Cass had gotten herself into some trouble by procrastinating until the last minute, and then having something come up that caused a further delay… and thus making her late. Cass got a good scolding  in which she was made to answer some specific questions about her decisions. It was explained that even a valid excuse doesn’t protect her bottom when she waits until the last minute to get something done.

With the talking done, Cass’ pants and panties were pulled down and she was given a firm hand spanking. It had been a while since she’d last been spanked and her bottom turned pink and then red pretty quickly.

When the spanking was over and Cass was pulling her pants up and wiping away a tear… Suzy asked Cass about an answer she’d offered during her scolding. Cass claimed that a “to do” list she was supposed to have done “must have accidentally fallen in the trash.” Suzy wanted to know if that was true. Cass explained that of course it wasn’t… that she’d never actually gotten the list done, and assumed that we knew she was joking.

Suzy responded by saying… “so you lied, during a scolding?” Pretty sure Cass realized her joke wasn’t very funny at that point…

After a brief scolding about the appropriate time to use humor (ie: not right before a discipline spanking), Cass again found her pants and panties down around her ankles. This time she found herself laying on the bed though, getting the Lexan Paddle from Suzy.

Cane for Cass
After giving a couple of spankings, we’d built up an appetite… lol (see, after the spankings it is okay to joke!). Cass and her sore bottom took us to a nice restaurant in town. We got a chance to drive around a bit and check things out too. Made for a nice little outing.

When we got back to Cass’ place we watched a DVD we’d rented… a Will Ferrell movie. Cass claimed that watching a Will Ferrell movie is about as bad as any discipline spanking, lol. So, she didn’t care for the flick. We thought it was okay though. Good for a few laughs.

After the movie there was still one more issue to cover. A bit complicated, but it boiled down to some issues with honesty and not always giving her best effort. Cass already had a lot of guilt built up and it was an emotional talk for her. A good one though, felt like some real progress was made.

The spanking was a long one. Started with a hand spanking from Todd, followed by a session with the Hawaiian Paddle. After some corner-time to gather herself and reflect a bit, things finished up with the cane. A hard session for sure. Cass was one sore girl afterwards, but it was obvious that she felt better. A lot of things were worked through.

Then we gave Cass a little aftercare. She was too sore for lotion to help, but cool washcloths did sooth her skin. She promised to be a good girl… and we can share she really has done great since we saw her.

We had some dinner and a relaxed chat. Nice way to cap off a good day with our friend. We both gave her a big hug and headed back onto the road. Wish it could have been a longer visit, but it was certainly nice getting to see Cass for the time we did. Have shared a video of Cass getting the cane at the bottom of the post… hope you can check that out.  Also added a ‘Before and After’ pic too.

Robert and Scunge
We covered several hours on the road that evening before checking into a hotel. Wanted to be somewhat close to Robert and Scunge’s place. We did get pretty close too, though ended up in some frustrating traffic in the morning getting there… so really didn’t save much time. All the hours on the road were starting to add up, so we were less than thrilled about that.

Once we got to Robert and Scunge’s house though, we immediately felt relaxed. They have a really neat place. 3 levels and lots of cool stuff. Robert is an artist, and a talented one. He does a wide mix of things, some of it simple and some of it extremely complex. He even does kink related art, including some spanking related pieces. Scunge has a great deal of talent too. She made Todd a blanket for his birthday. Haven’t used it too much yet (being summer and all), but it looks incredible and we have received several compliments about it.

So just walking through their place checking all their stuff out is a treat. They were great hosts too, made us feel really welcome. We had a nice meal at a local restuarant. No favor to our diet efforts, but it was good food!

As luck would have it, we ended up at Robert and Scunge’s on Consensual Spanking Day too… so you know there was lots of spanking!

They have their basement setup perfectly for spanking play. It’s private and sound proof with a bed, couch and some chairs. Robert had his bag of implements and we had ours. Turned out to be a nice spanking party for 4.

Robert gave Scunge a spanking first… a long one with lots of implements. They didn’t have any spanking pictures of their own, so Todd gladly took some for them. Those turned out real nice.

Of course, he took a turn spanking Scunge too. Scunge took a really hard 10 second spanking too… enough to get her eyes teared up a bit. Ouch! She was a brave girl though, and we think she was proud to have made it through too.

Suzy also got herself a 10 second spanking. Well, it was SUPPOSED to be a 10 second spanking, Robert was timing it (as Todd spanked)… and, oops… lol… he forgot to call out “time!” when the 20 seconds was up. So Suzy’s really hard and really fast spanking lasted about 40 seconds.

Not that anyone complained. Well, except for Suzy…

Lots of spanking fun and you can’t beat spending Consensual Spanking Day with friends.

We stayed the night, planning to have breakfast in the morning before heading for home. Someone lost the car key though. Wont say who it was, but SUZY was the last one to have it. That delayed us several hours. Not a big deal though. Got it taken care of, and got to spend some extra time with our friends.

The drive home was a looong one, but it went smoothly. An awesome summer vacation for us. We loved all the neat places we got to see, the time we spent together and all of the wonderful friends we had fun with. A big thank you to everyone that put up with us!

… and here is that video…

We had a fun-fun weekend in Ocala. Our streak of not going out to eat ended, but we did make healthy choices across the board. Also spent about 9 hours in the water on Saturday, so lots of exercise. Paid for that though. Despite putting on sunscreen a couple of times we both got pretty bad sunburns. Looked like a couple of lobsters by the time we got home.

Had a great time though. Our son even managed to smile and enjoy himself on the trip… which was really nice. Though it was a vanilla weekend with family, we did manage to sneak in a little spanking fun too. Hope to share that in a post soon.

The rest of the week was pretty boring. Not much going on. Did do really well on the diet though, and we’ve managed to stay on track since returning from our trip to New York.

Things get a little busier in September, but we’re focused on having a strong month. Overall we’re feeling really good about how things are going.

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Friends Update

Carye: Good news from Carye this week. On the diet front she was down 1.2 pounds, which she is really happy about. Even better though is some of the restrictions her doctor has had her on were lifted. She is now able to add dairy back into her diet and she can start light exercise (mainly walking).

Carye still isn’t back to her regular self health wise, but she tells us she’s feeling much better. We’re glad things are going well too… and very nice to hear good diet news.

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Jean: Jean is getting back into her regular routine at home and work as the summer draws to a close. She’s feeling good and mostly sticking to her rules. One issue with following doctor’s instructions this last week, but nothing too big… and she has promised to get back on track.

We’re looking forward to seeing Jean this coming weekend too. We’re having a small one day party in Ocala. Kind of a last minute thing for us spankos that wont be able to make it out to Las Vegas for the Labor Day party… and it will be just the one day. Looking forward to seeing some of our friends though, and of course catching up with Jean.

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Courtney: A rough week for Courtney. Things started with a fever and pain. She found out that was caused by a kidney infection and got put on some medication. Had a negative reaction to the meds though and ended up in the hospital for a couple of days. The good news is she home and feeling much better. Everything is going to be fine, which we’re all happy to hear. But yea, not a fun week for her.

With the health issues she was having the diet obviously got put on hold. The challenge was actually getting enough calories and fluids down. This week she wants to make sure to get her strength back. She’s hoping to otherwise get back into the swing of things though. We’re sending her some get well hugs.

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Good luck to everyone in the coming week.

If you’re interested in the Spanking Diet, we’d like to invite you to check out the Yahoo Spanking Diet Group. It’s a great group. Over 200 members now… lively discussions with lots of encouragement and idea sharing. We’d love to have you!

All you need is a free Yahoo account that lists your ~adult age~ in your *public profile*.

Always feel fee to Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com too… we always enjoy talking with new like-minded friends.