Comments on: Thursday Knight at the Roundtable http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116 American Spanking Society Sun, 05 Sep 2010 18:53:29 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Kami Robertson http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7282 Kami Robertson Sat, 06 Jun 2009 17:45:24 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7282 Hi, first of all thank you for using me and my blog as an example! :) Yes, I indulge myself in non-consensual spanking as a part of roleplay a lot. Actually I can't think of any roleplay/scene I did that included consensual spanking. I suppose the only consensual spankings themselves that happened were when I was bratting around simply in physical need of having my bum warmed, but it was still about pain invovolved and me squirming and kicking all the way through so I'm not sure how consensual that really was ;). But you made a good point in your post, it's about roleplays/scenes being non-consensual. I would never accepted and allow anyone to inflict any non-consensual spankings (or more) on me. It's hot in a roleplay and that's where nonconsent belong, in real life it's a crime, abuse and is just not sane. That's why I'm so fond of phrase 'consensual non-consent'. I do consent to play but for my character it's always non-consensual (minus roleplays with deserved punishment where I suppose it's semi-consensual then ;) ). And that makes perfect sense for me (and for the tops I enjoy playing with). Hi,

first of all thank you for using me and my blog as an example! :)

Yes, I indulge myself in non-consensual spanking as a part of roleplay a lot. Actually I can’t think of any roleplay/scene I did that included consensual spanking. I suppose the only consensual spankings themselves that happened were when I was bratting around simply in physical need of having my bum warmed, but it was still about pain invovolved and me squirming and kicking all the way through so I’m not sure how consensual that really was ;) .

But you made a good point in your post, it’s about roleplays/scenes being non-consensual. I would never accepted and allow anyone to inflict any non-consensual spankings (or more) on me. It’s hot in a roleplay and that’s where nonconsent belong, in real life it’s a crime, abuse and is just not sane.

That’s why I’m so fond of phrase ‘consensual non-consent’. I do consent to play but for my character it’s always non-consensual (minus roleplays with deserved punishment where I suppose it’s semi-consensual then ;) ). And that makes perfect sense for me (and for the tops I enjoy playing with).

]]> By: pixie http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7281 pixie Sat, 06 Jun 2009 16:58:30 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7281 Yes!! Most of my fantasies revolve around non-consensual spankings. I guess some would be considered borderline dark as they can involve capture or being held against my will and being spanked for resistance. In real life play, I enjoy mock-non-consensual spankings (if that makes any sense). I'd only do so with a person I knew well and trusted, but I like the style of play in which I say "please no, no" and try to get away rather than eagerly diving over the spanker's lap. But that's about as far as it goes in r/l. I would really have to have a special relationship to ever dare try something closer to my darker fantasies and I would NEVER want such things to actually happen in reality. Some things are just better left to the imagination. Yes!! Most of my fantasies revolve around non-consensual spankings. I guess some would be considered borderline dark as they can involve capture or being held against my will and being spanked for resistance.

In real life play, I enjoy mock-non-consensual spankings (if that makes any sense). I’d only do so with a person I knew well and trusted, but I like the style of play in which I say “please no, no” and try to get away rather than eagerly diving over the spanker’s lap.

But that’s about as far as it goes in r/l. I would really have to have a special relationship to ever dare try something closer to my darker fantasies and I would NEVER want such things to actually happen in reality. Some things are just better left to the imagination.

]]> By: Sara http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7275 Sara Sat, 06 Jun 2009 02:46:19 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7275 Hi Todd and Suzy! I really liked your topic and decided to write my many thoughts up as a post: http://findingsara.wordpress.com/2009/06/05/the-issue-of-consensual-non-consent-in-spanking/ Hi Todd and Suzy!

I really liked your topic and decided to write my many thoughts up as a post:

http://findingsara.wordpress.com/2009/06/05/the-issue-of-consensual-non-consent-in-spanking/

]]> By: The Issue of Consensual Non-Consent in Spanking « Finding Sara http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7274 The Issue of Consensual Non-Consent in Spanking « Finding Sara Sat, 06 Jun 2009 02:43:57 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7274 [...] Punishment, Submission, Taken in Hand, This Thing We Do, spanking)  Over at Todd and Suzy’s American Spanking Society  they asked a question that got me to thinking. And because it’s a rainy day here, and I am home [...] [...] Punishment, Submission, Taken in Hand, This Thing We Do, spanking)  Over at Todd and Suzy’s American Spanking Society  they asked a question that got me to thinking. And because it’s a rainy day here, and I am home [...]

]]> By: Korey http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7272 Korey Fri, 05 Jun 2009 22:16:40 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7272 I forgot to mention the most important part: In the world of James and I--we don't roleplay much, and when we do, it's consentual. HOWEVER: we LIVE our fantasy of non consentual through the "consent to be non-consentual" policy we've upheld for outselves. I forgot to mention the most important part: In the world of James and I–we don’t roleplay much, and when we do, it’s consentual. HOWEVER: we LIVE our fantasy of non consentual through the “consent to be non-consentual” policy we’ve upheld for outselves.

]]> By: Korey http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7271 Korey Fri, 05 Jun 2009 22:14:39 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7271 Well, this is sort of a complicated thing. I mean, a relationship is kept together through trust, understanding, communication... and NON CONSENTUAL anything normally puts a bruisin' on that. But as others have commented before; we've consented to be non-consentual. At least as far as day-to-day REAL discipline is concerned. As for the FANTASY: I can't say all fantasies imply an element of "force". But all of MY spanking fantasies do. Non-consentual spankings are mostly what I write about in my fictions and fantasize about in my sex life, and even outside of my sex life. It's what I hope on all my married gal-pals that aren't in a spanking relationship. It's even what I hope upon my friend who WANTS a spanking relationship, as I know she would like an element of non consent. And here's my interpretation on WHY: Non-concentual fantasies I think are directly translated into power. The man (or women, for some other folks' tastes) having more power than you--to be stronger than you--to give you "what you need" whether you like it or not. I think people OUTSIDE of the spanking community normally fantasize about forceful behavior. This is just the spankos' interpretation of that. That's my in-a-nutshell explanation, anyway. Well, this is sort of a complicated thing. I mean, a relationship is kept together through trust, understanding, communication… and NON CONSENTUAL anything normally puts a bruisin’ on that. But as others have commented before; we’ve consented to be non-consentual. At least as far as day-to-day REAL discipline is concerned.

As for the FANTASY: I can’t say all fantasies imply an element of “force”. But all of MY spanking fantasies do. Non-consentual spankings are mostly what I write about in my fictions and fantasize about in my sex life, and even outside of my sex life. It’s what I hope on all my married gal-pals that aren’t in a spanking relationship. It’s even what I hope upon my friend who WANTS a spanking relationship, as I know she would like an element of non consent. And here’s my interpretation on WHY:

Non-concentual fantasies I think are directly translated into power. The man (or women, for some other folks’ tastes) having more power than you–to be stronger than you–to give you “what you need” whether you like it or not. I think people OUTSIDE of the spanking community normally fantasize about forceful behavior. This is just the spankos’ interpretation of that. That’s my in-a-nutshell explanation, anyway.

]]> By: Daisy http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7270 Daisy Fri, 05 Jun 2009 17:53:24 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7270 Hi, Todd and Suzy! Yup, this is what really floats my boat!! I wanted a strong man who would spank me for being a brat, without knowing thats what I really wanted him to do!!! Of course, not really possible; but Davey does know this is how I feel; and boy, IS HE THE MAN to play up to this role??? (swoon) Somehow its more sexy, makes me so so wet, when he just takes matters in hand and spanks me when I deserve it, even when I am really angry at him for something and don't want to be spanked. He just whacks away while sternly lecturing, until he has "broken" the defiant streak within me.... yet, in reality, we both know that if I called the safe word, he would stop instantly... I try to forget that though, as it spoils the ethos. LOL. xxx Hi, Todd and Suzy!
Yup, this is what really floats my boat!!
I wanted a strong man who would spank me for being a brat, without knowing thats what I really wanted him to do!!! Of course, not really possible; but Davey does know this is how I feel; and boy, IS HE THE MAN to play up to this role??? (swoon) Somehow its more sexy, makes me so so wet, when he just takes matters in hand and spanks me when I deserve it, even when I am really angry at him for something and don’t want to be spanked. He just whacks away while sternly lecturing, until he has “broken” the defiant streak within me…. yet, in reality, we both know that if I called the safe word, he would stop instantly… I try to forget that though, as it spoils the ethos. LOL. xxx

]]> By: K http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7269 K Fri, 05 Jun 2009 17:13:50 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7269 The thought of being forced to take a spanking, or anything else, doesn't appeal to me, either. I like my sexy spankings. Though we've never tried discipline, in my mind, even that wouldn't be forced, but instead require me to submit gracefully. The thought of being forced to take a spanking, or anything else, doesn’t appeal to me, either. I like my sexy spankings. Though we’ve never tried discipline, in my mind, even that wouldn’t be forced, but instead require me to submit gracefully.

]]> By: Hermione http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7266 Hermione Fri, 05 Jun 2009 14:24:13 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7266 All our spankings are consensual, and the idea of being forced doesn't appeal to me at all. Nor have I ever tried to force Ron to spank me :-) Neithr of us would want to engage in a non-consensual roleplay scene. having said that, I would be willing to do a disciplinary roleplay, but I would consider that consensual, because the spanking would be punishment for a misdeed, and therefore deserved. Hugs, Hermione All our spankings are consensual, and the idea of being forced doesn’t appeal to me at all. Nor have I ever tried to force Ron to spank me :-)
Neithr of us would want to engage in a non-consensual roleplay scene. having said that, I would be willing to do a disciplinary roleplay, but I would consider that consensual, because the spanking would be punishment for a misdeed, and therefore deserved.

Hugs,
Hermione

]]> By: Shygirl70 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116&cpage=1#comment-7263 Shygirl70 Fri, 05 Jun 2009 03:04:00 +0000 http://americanspankingsociety.com/?p=5116#comment-7263 Lately what I've found is that when my partner talks about the spankings he's going to give me and then asks me "Does that excite you?" I almost immediately switch into role playing mode, discussing how scared I am and how I am dreading my punishment but if that's the only way he feels he can keep me in line, so be it. The whole idea of a "non-consenual" spanking is such a turn on, but as my friends have already mentioned, in a "consenual" relationship where the unspoken rules are adhered to. But I do enjoy fantasizing about being grabbed suddenly, without warning and thrown over someone's knee. Totally hot! Ironic that is says "Submit" comment! :) Lately what I’ve found is that when my partner talks about the spankings he’s going to give me and then asks me “Does that excite you?” I almost immediately switch into role playing mode, discussing how scared I am and how I am dreading my punishment but if that’s the only way he feels he can keep me in line, so be it. The whole idea of a “non-consenual” spanking is such a turn on, but as my friends have already mentioned, in a “consenual” relationship where the unspoken rules are adhered to. But I do enjoy fantasizing about being grabbed suddenly, without warning and thrown over someone’s knee. Totally hot!

Ironic that is says “Submit” comment! :)

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