Just wanted to point out that this goes both ways – I did have a Dom use the word toward me during a very emotional moment (on my part) and I can honestly say it was the beginning of the end of that relationship. It just seemed to epitomize the lack of concern I was seeing in other aspects of the relationship and that wasn’t something I could get over.

Now, said in a teasing, joking, or playful manner I don’t really see any problem with the word “whatever.” As with most of the things we say, intention and inflection are more at issue than the actual language in most cases.

I’m talking about within a discipline setting… where I do believe a certain amount of respect should be shown. My thoughts on “whatever” extend to a serious conversation too. But playful, the rules are totally different.

Sarah ~ She should have been aware, since she’d been told (a couple of times). She says she forgot. That does happen… but luckily, I have a handy way of making things easier to remember,

Amanda ~ lol… yea, I’d spank for “Duh” in a quick-quick hurry too. I will say this though… in a discipline setting I strive to be respectful in everything I say/do. I don’t mock or joke around. I don’t want to confuse the situation with fun-playtime and I don’t want any possibility of my words not being taken at face value. So, I think it’s reasonable to ask that the same courtesy be returned… and, “duh” might well be more disrespectful than “whatever.” Never had a spankee bust out a “duh” on me though! Would have to think up a new spanking for that one. Maybe something like…

During the spanking ask, “Does this hurt?”

“yes-YES!”

“Well… DUH…” … and then keep on spanking.

~T

Amanda

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