This week at the Roundtable we’re talking about how the consent to spank works in different relationships. Have had several wonderful comments, and lots of Quick Response votes. Still time to leave your opinion if you haven’t had the chance (just scroll down to Thursday’s post).

One way consent to spank can be given is, well… rather formal. A contract. The idea isn’t for everyone, but for others having exact expectations spelled out on paper can be very comforting. Not just for the spankee, but for the spanker too. Both are quite literally on the same page when it comes to spanking.

We thought we’d offer a few examples of spanking related contracts from across the wwweb.

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The first example up is probably the most well known. The Spencer Spanking was developed by Dorothy Spencer in the 1930′s. It’s a rather bold plan for the era in which a married couple uses spanking to motivate better behavior and to resolve small misunderstandings before resentment can build.

Both the husband and wife are spanked. The wife gets off rather easy, as her spankings are to be given OTK and by hand only, with no brusing allowed… while the husband gets a leather strap. Dorothy made the rules though, and she was a woman!

Here is a snip from her writings about when the wife has earned a spanking:

When a spanking is to be given, the wife is directed to go to her room and get ready. This means she is to undress and wait up in her room until her husband comes up to discipline her.

When her husband enters the room there should be no delay in carrying out the discipline. She must not argue about the matter – beg to be let off – or show any sign of resentment. She must obey without a word.

It is best not to say a single word during this period.

The wife should quietly place herself across her husband’s lap – after he seats himself on the edge of the bed. Holding her in place, in the age-old spanking position, he begins spanking her. His duty is to do a thorough job – taking the utmost pains to do it right.

The spanking over – and still without speaking – the husband should let his wife up, then quietly leave the room.

Not sure what her deal about no talking was? Certainly not something we’d recommend. And no cuddling or aftercare… hmmm… very old school!

She swore her plan had many-many successes though. The equality in her plan was quite radical in its day.

There were several contracts for a couple to sign before entering into a Spencer Plan agreement. Here is one of the contracts the wife would sign:

Date: __/__/19__

I, __________ wife of __________ do hereby acknowledge that I have read the Spencer Spanking Plan and approve of the doctrines it advocates.

From this date on, it is my wish to have my conduct regulated by the enforcement of these doctrines.

I give to my husband, therefore, the full right and permission to spank me whenever he feels such discipline would prove helpful and be in accordance with the spirit of the Spencer Plan.

This Agreement has been entered into willingly – and for no other purpose than to improve my disposition and secure the general benefit that always comes from the enforcement of intelligent discipline.

I understand that I will be spanked without fail if I break my promise to refrain from:

(List Causes which have been agreed upon.)

I promise to cooperate with my husband faithfully. I will get ready for the punishment promptly when asked to do so and I will bear him absolutely no ill-will for so disciplining me.

I promise further to ASK for spankings when I feel I need them. I realize that Request Punishment plays a highly important part in the Spencer Plan, and I will report and ask for the discipline when I feel need or deserve it.

(wife) X __________

(husband) X __________

Obviously the list of “agreed upon causes” would be a BIG deal. That’s where you’d need a good lawyer, lol. You can read about the Spencer Plan in its entirety at Agony and Ecstasy.

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A very interesting modern spanking contract can be found at C’s Correction. This blog details a LDD lifestyle… Loving Domestic Discipline… of a couple in the UK. Great reading here. The issue of LDD is taken very seriously, with lots of wonderful insights offered. We really-really like this blog, and plan to “wink” to it real soon.

Here is the LDD contract they use:

1) I will never hold up the disciplinary process by arguing the justification of my punishment spankings. Whether just/unjust I will receive and graciously accept.

2) I will never procrastinate and try and stall the disciplinary process.

3) I will never refuse the disciplinary process as I have done in the past by telling you I have a migraine, period pain or feel generally unwell. * (i)

4) I will never brat you into spanking me.

5) I will never remind you to punish me if you so happen to forget. (But will journal this forgetfulness and my feelings associated with it.)

6) I will never cover up my bottom with my hands or buck with my feet to try and stop the flow of your loving correction. *(ii)

7) I will never plead for you to stop spanking me; tell you how much it hurts, or how sorry I am in the hope of you stopping – unless you request it I won’t say anything at all.

I will be respectful at all times during the disciplinary process – if it really hurts I will bite my lip, or hold a pillow to my face. After all “Discipline is meant to hurt, but never harm.”

9) I will always keep my position.

10) I will always thank you after my discipline.

11) I will always apologise to you after my discipline.

12) I will always describe what I have learnt after my discipline and I will listen to your leadership and advice in how to resolve my bad behaviour. I will offer you strategies and we will discuss how I will try to maintain my desired behaviour. *(iii)

13) I will always call you sir (or equivelent) during my discipline. *(iv)

14) I will always keep my journal up to date – where I will concentrate on the 3 D’s (Disobedience, Disrespect, Dishonesty) and also record my punishment spankings.

15) I will always present you with my journal on Saturday so that you can assess whether I need punishing separately or jointly with my Maintenance Discipline on Sunday.

16) I will set up a graph (with your help:-) using Excel to record the frequency of my most serious offence. This will be in order to hopefully see a decline and eventual eradication in this extremely dangerous misbehaviour. *(v)

17) If I feel compulsion to engage in my most serious and dangerous offence then I will ALWAYS talk with you on the phone so that I can feel the full benefit of your support.

A good deal of focus on the actual spanking itself. Some of the rules seem difficult to always follow, such as never getting out of position during a spanking. This couple takes discipline spankings very seriously though, and wants the process treated with the utmost respect. We can respect that!

We do highly recommend this blog. It really is wonderful. Here is a direct link to the contract page… several comments and contract adjustments can be found there.

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Now, not all spanking contracts are so serious. Some are focused on other things. Here is a spanking contract we found at Taken in Hand:

Contract of Wifely Expectations

Hygiene & Self-care initials_____

You will shave every third day, which includes underarms, chest, legs, and public area (navel to anus), all areas are to be completely clean shaven. Above your vaginal slit you may have a patch of pubic hair in any shape, that must be centered above your vaginal slit, it will measure no greater than 2.0″ X 1.0″, and will maintain a hair length of less 1/3″.

Clothes & Other Apparel initials_____

You will wear only thigh-highs & garters, and only thong panties. The only exception would be during your menstrual cycle, at which time you could wear either or both. Half of your shoe purchases will be high-heels, 2″ or more. You will then wear these high heels more often.
You will give me all non-thong panties and all pantyhose, all tights, all knee-highs and/or all ankle-high nylons. You be able to keep 5 pairs of non-thong panties of your choice for use during menstrual cycle.

Sleepwear & Sleeping initials_____

When we are at home, and alone as a family, you will be naked within 20 minutes of the kids being in bed, and then sleep naked, unless instructed otherwise. If I am not home when the kids go to bed you are still to be naked before I return home. The only exception will be during your menstrual cycle.
When we are not at home, or not alone as a family, you will try to ensure that we sleep together. If we do sleep together you will sleep naked. I will make exceptions for sleepwear, but only if you do not ask for them. Exception will be given based on how well you follow this contract in its entirety. If we do not sleep together your sleepwear must conform to the standards for exceptions.
When exceptions are given, the following is acceptable and is your choice: T-shirts, pajama tops, or gowns, as long as the over-all length is not past your knees. Panties (any type) can be worn also. Absolutely no bottoms, shorts, pajama pants, or full gowns can be worn.
When we are in bed together I can cuddle, spoon, hold or touch you in any way, as long as it does not excessively disruptive to your sleep.

My-Time initials_____

When we are at home and alone as a family, from when you are to be naked until 12:00 am, or for three hours, which ever is later, will be My-Time. This time will be, time you will devout solely to me, whereas you will be in my service to do anything and everything I want, which may or may not be sexual in manner.
When we are not at home or not alone as a family, My-Time will be modified as follows: you will have your clothes, you will be able to speak openly, and you won’t have to perform anything sexual until we are in bed, however, all other rules still apply.

During My-Time you WILL NOT –

1. Argue about anything with me or to me.
2. Complain about anything to me, or about me.
3. Cry, sob, whine, or pout.
4. Sigh, moan, sulk, or otherwise show displeasure or unhappiness.
5. Raise your voice at or to me.
6. Be condescending to, or about me.
7. Ask for anything from me or for me.
8. Be distracted from me, by other things.

During My-Time, you WILL –

1. Be subservient, submissive, and totally obedient.
2. To do what you are asked, when you are asked, exactly how you are asked.
3. Be cheerful and adoring towards me.
4. Be close at all times, unless otherwise told to.
5. Perform any and all sexual acts, excluding anal penetration and/or ingestion of cum, when told to.

Good Behavior—

Since there will be no trading, negotiations, or conciliations of any kind you are given chances to earn Good Behavior Days (GBD’s). To receive GBD’s you are to be totally compliant with everything requested or expected of you, and perform everything with complete and total enthusiasm. In addition, GBD’s will be given when you do things from the descriptions below when not expected. If you try to perform something not expected and I tell you no you will receive half GBD’s. Specific GBD info is listed at the bottom right of each description.
Each GBD can be used to “get out of” doing the things request or expected of you for an entire day with the following exceptions birthdays, anniversary, shaving and sleepwear. Unless someone is staying with us or we are staying with someone, then it can be used for sleepwear also. GBD’s can be redeemed anytime after you received them to the end of the next quarter. You must notify me by 12.00pm of the day you are using a GBD or it can not be used.

Misbehavior & Noncompliant—

Misbehavior is when you complain about what is requested or expected of you, or when you try to request something else instead of what was requested or expected of you. If this happens you will lose 5 GBD’s per incident. It is also misbehavior if you perform half-assed. If this happens you will lose the GBD’s that would have been given. If it continues after the GBD are lost then you are considered noncompliant. However, it is not misbehavior to state that there are specific situations requested or expected of you that hurt or cause pain. It is also not misbehavior to suggest ways to avoid those specific situations, other than to propose not to do them.
You are to do everything that is requested or expected of you, if you do not you are considered noncompliant. You are also noncompliant if you start something but can not or will not finish, even if you state that you are in pain or something hurts. If you are noncompliant then you lose three times amount of GBD’s that would have been given. If you don’t have enough GBD’s to cover the loss, then you will be tied to the bed and I will do whatever I wish too you. This will continue every night until you are ready to be compliance, at which time you will need to apologize and explain how you are ready to be my sex slave again.

Sleep Time & On Demand—

Sleep time is from an hour after we are in bed until an hour before the alarm is set for. You are to set the alarm according, and tell me what for time it is set for. If it happens that we are traveling or we are at an event, and we are not able to be home or in bed, then sleep time will be consider 11pm to 7am. During this time you are not expected to “perform” anything, however, at anytime, I can cuddle, spoon, hold or touch you.
There are certain circumstances when you are to perform any and all requests immediately this will. On demand means what I say, when I say, where I say, and how I say. The circumstances are:
Anytime from 20mins after the kids are in bed up to an hour after we are in bed
Anytime from an hour before the alarm set for to when the alarm goes off
Anytime we are alone and without the kids
8-11pm and 6-7am when traveling

Dressing Up—

For special events that we are to dress up for, when we are going to someone else’s house, or just the two of us are going out your clothes must meet my approval. General rules are:
Panties are always optional and need not be worn
Only thigh-highs & garter—no pantyhose
If you are not wearing thigh-highs & garter then no panties
All skirts no lower than two inches below the knee (unless it’s for Church)

GBD-1 for each time that was not expected
1 per week only if you had to

Shaving—

Shaving will be done every third day, and includes underarms, legs, and public area (navel to anus), all areas are to be completely clean shaven. Every Saturday you are to use the Walh clippers with a guard no greater than 1/2″, and then present yourself to me for a measurement checks.
Above your vaginal slit you can have; 1) a rectangle patch; that must be centered above your vaginal slit, it will have a length 3/4″ the length of your vaginal slit, no wider than 1 in.; 2) Any other design that is centered and above your vaginal slit, with an area of no greater than that of an equilateral triangle with a height of 3/4″ the length of your vaginal slit; or 3) Completely and totally clean shaven. Regardless of which choice of shave, noncompliance is based on #2 rate.

GBD-1/2 per week with #1
GBD-1 per week with #2
GBD-2 per week with #3

Sleepwear—

I will select your sleepwear for you, and you will find it under your pillow if there is none then you are to be naked. You are to have your sleepwear on within 20 minutes after the kids are in bed. This pertains to anytime we are alone as a family, whether or not I am at home or in the bed with you, and whether or not we are at home. If there is someone else staying with us or we are staying with someone then you are to be naked at the time we go to bed regardless of what was selected. During your menstrual cycle you can wear a top and panties. The top is to be no longer than that to cover your butt cheeks.

GBD-1/2 per week.

Fellatio, Intercourse, and Other Sex Acts—

Fellatio must last at least, 5 min. and may include climax. Intercourse includes anal and vaginal intercourse. Sex acts can be oral, anal or vaginal, and include but are not limited too: stripping, hand-jobs, fingering, masturbation, dildoing, vibrators, and object insertions. All applications of lube to myself, you, or any object, will be done by you.

GBD-14 for anal intercourse not expected
7 for anal intercourse expected
3 for fellatio to ejaculation
1 for each not expected
3 per week for expected

Birthdays & Anniversary—

On your birthday, . . . you will receive one GBD that is good only on your birthday. On or before my birthday you will select and purchase a sex toy for yourself, this we be consider my birthday gift from you. On or before our anniversary you will select and purchase new lingerie for yourself. Lingerie may include a cameo & panty set, nice nylon & garter set, corset, baby doll set, a costume bra & panty set, etc. Lingerie does not include night gowns, or PJ’s. The lingerie that you selected and purchased, will be your sleepwear for that night.

GBD-4 for each

Photos—

You are to pose for 20 photos per quarter on demand, unless your quota is filled. Outfits, toys, and poses will always be chosen by me. You must be freshly shaven on the day that photos are taken regardless of your shaving schedule. You will also style hair, apply makeup and nail polish as needed. All photos are done in sets of no less than five. You have a quota of one set per month.

GBD-3 if all sets finished a month early
3 per set not expected
1 per quota met

Quarterly Negotiation—

By the first day of each quarter you must choose how to keep track of your GBD’s. You can either be given actual paper GBD’s that you are responsible for returning to be redeemed, or you can choose to have them track on the computer.
By the end of the first day of each quarter you are to choose your pet name that you want me to call you by. Your choice must meet my approval, and noncompliance will be a 20 GBD loss.
This is not a contract, it is a description of rules for you. You can within two weeks prior to the end of the quarter request a change. If you request a change before that time you will loss 10 GBD’s. Negotiations requested in a timely manner will be done after you are in your sleepwear. All properly made requests, will be consider. Changes will be explained at the beginning of the next quarter.

VERY detailed contract in certain areas, but not so much in others. Shaving is broken down to exact minutia, but say… being careful with personal safety… is not mentioned at all. But, if this contract makes that couple happy… good for them!

There were LOTS of comments about this contract over at Taken in Hand. Some speculated that the contract was a lonely man’s work of fiction. Others said the guy was a wife abuser. We don’t know about all that, but it is interesting reading. Here is the LINK to the page this contract appears on.

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Here is a much simpler blank spanking contract from the folks at Firm But Fair:

Punishment Agreement
Between
__________________ and ___________________

I, ______________________, do hereby acknowledge that from this day on, it is my wish to have my conduct regulated by my husband, ________________. I give to my husband the full right and permission to punish me whenever he feels such discipline would be helpful and be in accordance with our agreements previously entered into.

This agreement has been entered into willingly and for no other purpose than to improve my life and secure the general benefit that always comes from the enforcement of intelligent discipline. I understand that I will be punished without fail if I breach any part of contracts and agreements we have already entered into.

I promise to cooperate fully and faithfully with my husband. I will get ready for the punishment promptly when asked to do so, and I will bear him absolutely no ill will for so disciplining me.

I promise further to ask for discipline when I feel I need it. I realize that such requests play a highly important part in my growth, and I will ask for the discipline when I feel I need or deserve it.

This agreement is entered into on this _____ day of ______________, 20___ by:

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Wife

I, ______________________, husband of ___________________, do hereby promise and agree to discipline my wife whenever I feel that such discipline would prove helpful to her. For my wife’s own good, I promise to discipline her without fail whenever her conduct warrants it.

This agreement is entered into on this _____ day of ____ 20___

A little like the Spencer Spanking Plan, except this one doesn’t bother listing actual reasons for spanking. Rather, the “whenever he feels such discipline would be helpful” clause is used. Well, so long as it’s in accordance with previous agreements (whatever that means!).

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We also invite you to checkout the Domestic Discipline/TPE agreement our friends at Journey to the Darkside have posted. It’s quite long and detailed, with a general code of conduct section, followed by 36 more specific rules. Very interesting reading!

So, if a spanko couple decides to have a ‘contract’… there are a great many options. We hope you enjoyed glancing at a few of them.