*Enjoying Discipline?*
It’s safe to assume that given the consensual nature of adult spanking that the people that engage in it do so at least in part because they enjoy it. We know we certainly do. It’s easy to have fun with lots of aspects of spanking too. The playful and fun… the erotic and sexual… the chance to meet so many neat people that share our interests… collecting implements… cool videos and pictures… parties. Lots to pick from.
The discipline side is definitely a different story though. It is supposed to be motivating for the spanking. Something to dislike and work to avoid. So the opposite of enjoyment. And then the spanker… well, it seems they should be driven by a desire to help and that they should have a ‘this is for your own good’ approach. If the spanker enjoys giving a discipline spanking, if that’s the primary driving force – it seems like they might LOOK for reasons to give them.
That said though, the spanking world is filled with written stories, videos and pictures depicting discipline spankings. Those things are popular because they are enjoyed. So a bit of a dichotomy there.
Or maybe not? Perhaps discipline spanking works just fine if spankee and/or spanker enjoy it… or maybe it really doesn’t work as a motivator, but that’s okay anyway.
This week at the Roundtable we’d like to talk about enjoying discipline spankings. As always we welcome any and all to share. We’d love to hear from you so please don’t be shy. Here are a few questions to get the discussion started.
Do you enjoy anything about giving/receiving real discipline spankings, and if so what? What about discipline spankings that don’t involve you… stories, videos, etc… do you enjoy anything about those? Would you have an issue if your spankee/spanker enjoyed receiving/giving real discipline spankings? What if that enjoyment was their main reason for engaging in real discipline spankings?
We invite you to leave a comment below, or if you like you can Email us at ToddnSuzy@yahoo.com and we’ll post your thoughts in the Sunday Roundtable Wrap-up.
Also have the Quick Response Poll and we do invite you to share your vote there too.
Thanks for reading and have a great weekend!
March 7th, 2013 - 10:20 pm
Great post, I think this is one of the more complicated facets of DD.
With regards to being spanked, I enjoy thinking about and remembering discipline spankings, I do not enjoy receiving them as they are happening.
When it comes to being the spanker, I do enjoy giving them to a certain degree, although it is tempered somewhat because the recipient really hates them and I feel bad for her.
March 8th, 2013 - 2:30 am
I don’t enjoy giving discipline spankings, but like Mortagnan, I sometimes enjoy remembering them. Real discipline spankings are forced on the dom, in a certain way. They are also tempered with the fact the sub has misbehaved.
It depends, of course, on what the misbehavior is. If it’s not all that serious, then it doesn’t require all that severe a punishment. But, if the sub is really doing something damaging, then it’s hard to give them.
I think the pleasure, if you can call it that, is more of a satisfaction from getting a change in behavior. In a way, subs may also get satisfaction or value out of it, even if it’s unpleasant and they hated it at the time. It also creates a sense of closeness. So, maybe the effects are pleasurable, even if the punishment itself is a pain.
March 9th, 2013 - 4:18 am
A discipline spanking is not just about the actual spanking. Atleast for me, there is headspace, emotions involved. The discipline spanking entails the talking too, emotions, headspace, the actual spanking, and aftercare. It is very different and should be something not wanted. I do not like discipline spankings. I hate knowing I disappointed someone and will strive not to do it.
March 10th, 2013 - 9:41 am
I agree with Jean. A discipline spanking is about so much more than the physical act of a spanking. The knowledge that we have disappointed someone who we care about and that we have brought the discipline upon ourselves. While I was being disciplined I never liked the actual discipline but I did enjoy the knowledge that once it was complete my slate was clean and I could start fresh.
The most crucial part of the discipline spanking is the head space. Being one who enjoys being spanked, the difference is exactly that…the place you go in your head. When participating in funishment, I can wear out a dom. But the voice on the other hand of the hand/implement changes the tone.
March 27th, 2013 - 7:32 am
I do not receive discipline spankings. I like erotic spankings and spankings as a release, like a massage. Sometimes I wish I received discipline spankings like when I’ve gone over board with my temper. When I used to receive regular spankings, I wished my then spanko boyfriend would have taken control of the situation–taken control of me and spanked me. Not in anger but because the situation needed to be diffused, i needed to be calmed, I would head into be being waaay wrong, AND he was supposed the be the leader.
If I was ever to receive discipline spankings, i do not know that I would enjoy the spankings themselves but I would sure enjoy knowing that someone corrected me, made me think, made me do better, and cared.
-H